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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-11-03 06:42 pm

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Re: What are your relationship deal breakers?

(Anonymous) 2014-11-04 06:16 am (UTC)(link)
(da) I think there's a level of ambition that is expected of people (potential romantic interests). For instance - here, you say you have a job that you love and are making good money. You can both support yourself (without mooching off others) and have enough money leftover for doing things you like. I think that's a reasonable level of ambition; if I say that I expect someone to be ambitious, I just mean that I want someone to seek to achieve financial stability and to have a desire to better him/herself in some way. It doesn't have to be "you need to earn EVEN MORE money!!" or something; if you get joy out of, say, gardening, and you spend time on your garden and figure out how best to nurture your plants and make them grow, then that's fine. Or if you have the free time and spend time with your family or something. If that makes any sense...

(Though it is true that some people are REALLY focused on using salary as a metric for how successful someone is...)

DA

(Anonymous) 2014-11-04 06:19 am (UTC)(link)
I can barely get by myself, but me and my fiancee are content despite it. We're both slower-paced people, and our greatest ambition is our own place and that's about it. Otherwise, we're fine so long as we have food in our bellies. One of us is severely disabled (fibromyalgia, it sucks), so we're not stupid--one of us is going to be mooching off someone depending on the definition, and that's even if you don't include my partial disability (bum ankle from an accident a few years back, it never healed right).

I guess it just baffles me how people use ambition as a measure of something.