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I would never call a doctor by her first name, but just to play devil's advocate, when the nurse calls patients back at every single doctor's office I've ever been to, it's always by first name. Maybe with a last named added if nobody immediately responds. I kinda find that a little insulting too.

I kinda find that a little insulting too.

That's interesting. Would you rather they use Ms./Mrs./Mr. Last Name instead? There's someone above that said that.

Honestly, to me it seems weird that they'd call you something other than your first name. The doctor calls you by your first name, you call them Dr. Whoever. That's just how it works, or at least that's how I was raised. And I think most people here feel the same way...obviously there are *some* who don't feel that way since they don't see anything wrong with calling the doctor by his first name, but it seems most do. That's how it seems to work on the doctor shows I've watched, too. (Not that TV is necessarily representative of reality, but the writers had to have gotten the idea that that's how it's done from somewhere.)

It's really interesting to me to see the different responses here.

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It is interesting. :)

Well, to me, whatever mechanism is in place to make the doctor feel insulted if I call him by his first name is also in place when he talks to me. I'm an adult. I've got a Ph.D. Why should he call me Lorraine, and I not call him John? (which I should stress that I do call my doctor Dr. Lastname except for our pediatrician who encourages everyone to call him Dr. Firstname; in fact the name of his practice is Dr. Firstname's Kids) I also think it's super weird to see nurses in their twenties calling sixty year old women by their first names. I fully acknowledge this may be a Southern thing, but it seems super patronizing to me.

I don't know if I can explain this so it makes sense, but to me it kind of depends on what the nature of the relationship is. He can call you Lorraine and you should call him Dr. Last Name because in this situation, you're the one relying on his expertise (for some reason I'm blanking on a good way to phrase that but hopefully it makes sense). I'm not sure what your Ph.D is in, but let's say he came to you for help/advice/whatever would make sense in that field...in that context, you're the expert and he's the one coming to you, so you can call him John and he should call you Dr. Last Name.

I thought I mentioned this example in the original post (but apparently not) but some of the people who call him by his first name are doctors as well, so I guess I get it, but to me it still seems slightly "improper". Like, ok, they're both doctors, but it depends on which way the relationship goes...if he's their patient and they're his doctor, then they call him by his first name and they call him Dr. Last Name...but if he's the doctor and they're the patient he calls them by their first name and they call him Dr. Last Name. That probably doesn't make any sense outside my head, though.

I also think it's super weird to see nurses in their twenties calling sixty year old women by their first names. I fully acknowledge this may be a Southern thing, but it seems super patronizing to me.

I'm in the south, too, but maybe it's more a generational thing? Nurses in their twenties calling sixty year old women by their first names doesn't seem at all weird to me, but it sounds like it's maybe related to the whole "respect your elders" thing where you shouldn't call older people by their first names? I wasn't raised that way at all so it's weird to me when other people find it weird but it seems like lots of people were raised that way.

This was an interesting convo, Nonnie. :) I appreciated reading your perspective.

Honestly, to me it seems weird that they'd call you something other than your first name.

I would find it incredibly patronizing to be called by my first name by my doctor and her staff. Where I'm from, only kids are called by their first name, adults by Mr./Mrs./Ms. LastName. It's a sign of respect - sure, I go to the doctor because I need her expertise (note: if it's about that, then there would be no reason for her *staff* to call me by my first name, as it's not their expertise I need), but just because the I came to the doctor for help doesn't mean they can talk down to me.

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