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I'm not sure what it's telling of, exactly, other than that I was obviously taught different things on this issue than some other people that are commenting here.

I was thinking mainly in college. (Although to me it wouldn't make a difference if it was kids, because I wasn't raised that kids couldn't call adults by their first names...the only reason they don't do it with teachers is because they're teachers/in a position of authority.) If professors asked to be called by their first name, sure (and some of mine did). But just assuming that it's ok to call someone by their first name when they have a specific title is not proper.

In this office there's only the one doctor so it's not a matter of confusion. And actually, people sometimes do say "I need to make an appointment with Bob Jones" and that's fine. It's just using the first name only that's not appropriate.

You keep saying deference and I'm talking about respect. They're not exact synonyms. All I'm talking about is just basic respect and courtesy for other people. If someone has a title, you use it. It has nothing to do with thinking they're above you or anything. And if they would prefer to be called by their first name and don't want to use the title, that's fine. But using it should be the default, until you're told otherwise. That's just proper ettiquette.

Obviously there's a huge cultural divide in how I was raised and how some of the other people commenting here were. I think it's probably a regional thing. Where I live is weird in that it's in the south and in some ways really old-fashioned and traditional, but it's also a larger city so on other things it's more "modern" I guess. There are a couple people from the south commenting here saying different things than I am, but on other issues (mainly about whether you should call older people by their first names, it seems), so I still think that might be the case, especially since where I live there's the combination of the two different mindsets.

But whatever the reasoning, it's been really interesting to see the differences in how other people think/what they were taught.

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Re: Calling doctors by their first names