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Yeah I would agree that you're acting like a piece of shit here.

NA

Wow. OP's roommate cheated on her fiancé and is apparently a horrible person in other ways (which could all be subjective, it's true), and OP is the piece of shit for being glad she's getting what she deserves? You're a real prize, aren't you?

Lol she didn't say anything about feeling bad for the guy in this situation. Meaning she's acting like a self righteous twat for feeling joy about a shitty situation people are having, probably because she's not feeling great herself. Misery loves company. At least she had the stones to admit it though, I'll give her that much.

OP

No, I do feel bad for the guy. I've only met him briefly, but he seemed nice enough. I'd probably still be delighting in the situation even if he was kind of a dick though, so you got me there. As for the not feeling great part, she's actually been the source of most of my recent anxieties which aren't making me feel great so technically you're right.

Eh, sorry for coming across as harsh. More information on the situation completely changes what this really is. Now that you informed us that she was bullying you a bit which caused anxiety, and that you felt bad for the fiance who was cheated on, it makes your reaction seem reasonable. Feeling a bit of resentment over someone who was shitty to you is natural, and at least you recognized that feeling glee over their circumstances being shitty isn't the best thing to do. Since it doesn't change any of your own circumstances anyway.

da

they already said the roommate was awful. didn't that already imply that she wasn't a nice person? why would feeling bad for the fiance make their glee less terrible in your eyes (not that I think it's terrible. I'd probably laugh my ass off)?

Because the first post didn't acknowledge feeling bad for the fiance who was cheated on, and didn't mention the bullying. "Awful" can be pretty subjective, and with little context to go on in the original post, made it appear like some self-righteous narcissist who was happy at people having shittier lives. Having glee over a shitty situation does indicate a shitty person.

OP isn't a terrible person, but you sound like one. Yuck.

because I'd laugh at someone after they cheated on their fiance (potentially exposing them to STDs and probably causing them quite a bit of anguish after they found out the truth) and then got butthurt when they were, shockingly, dumped for it? okay

da

lol what, do you want them to cry themselves to sleep because some dumbass ruined their own relationship and rightfully got tossed to the curb?

Lol. No one is saying OP should cry herself to sleep. OP just admitted she took joy out of this misery, not even feeling bad for the guy who was cheated on, which is completely different to thinking her roommate had it coming.

Fair enough

DA

I know you've already corrected a misunderstanding with the OP over this, but I just want to ask why you immediately jumped tho the conclusion that OP is a piece of shit - it's entirely possible to feel sorry for one party in a situation and take glee in another party's comeuppance at the same time. Also, if OP's roommate was awfuk, as held up by the fact they were cheating on their fiance, isn't it ultimately a good thing that the nice fiance found out so ge can get on with his life, rather than marry someone who was lying to him? Amd therefore OP's glee isn't actually as heartless as you initially thought?

Because they didn't state feeling bad for the guy in this situation and didn't seem to spare a thought to him, and instead made it seem like it was all about the roomie being awful and taking glee in her misery and literally nothing else. That's the kind of person who'd probably not give a fuck that anyone else was hurt in this situation so long as they got their laugh.

AYRT

I guess I understand that, but that definitely wasn't the impression I got from OP's original post, nor does it seem the most likely assumption to me to make about OP based on their post. I guess what I'm gently trying to say is that I (and most of the other commenters in this thread) think you overreacted a bit here - so it might be an idea to mull your gut reaction over a while before posting in a similar situation in the future.

This was a fascinating thread to come across.

There's something I don't understand that nobody has brought up though--what does it even matter how OP feels, as long as they're not behaving like a dick to the fiancee or the awful roommate? OP is describing experiencing a feeling, not lording it over the roommate and pointing and laughing at every opportunity. Emotional reactions don't make you a shitty person, shitty behavior does.

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