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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-12-05 06:28 pm

[ SECRET POST #2894 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2894 ⌋

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10. [ WARNING for non-con/rape ]
















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[personal profile] dysmaid 2014-12-05 11:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Don't be too hard on yourself over writing some fiction, but it could be useful to try to determine where your desire to explore this trope comes from since you're clearly put off by it. I've found that when I write disturbing material, particularly when I seem to glorify an unhealthy relationship, it's because I'm feeling isolated, crappy about myself, and wanting some kind of relief. I explore it through characters with heavy-handed angst where one or both of them is treated badly, and then resolve it with "warm feelings" like you said, but it's all for my own comfort. Like, I let myself wallow in the awfulness and then soothe myself by letting it work out well.

I don't know if I would recommend publishing stuff with this kind of material if it's not presented critically, but if writing it is at all therapeutic for you, you shouldn't have to feel like a shitty person for doing it as long as you know why.

(Anonymous) 2014-12-06 05:35 am (UTC)(link)
I've written non-con/rape fics because it was easier to write about it happening to a character was easier (read: actually not impossible) than writing about it happening to ME.

I know that I'm not the only survivor who writes non-con. Sometimes because it's a way of displacing what happened onto someone "stronger," sometimes because rewriting it allows for some degree of control, sometimes we don't know why, because the human brain is a weird place, and we're not always aware of everything that goes on in there.

(Anonymous) 2014-12-06 07:08 am (UTC)(link)
I just write dubcon because I'm a still a virgin in my 30s and I want someone to want me.

(Anonymous) 2014-12-06 08:56 am (UTC)(link)
DA

Completely seconding the concept of displacing trauma onto someone 'stronger'. Or in my case, someone I liked and deemed a worthy human being, because I certainly couldn't apply those things to myself. By exploring these things happening to a character I actually loved and respected it took away some of the self-loathing and self-judgment involved.

Also seconding the control part, now I think about it. I've had some complaints that my noncon fic should have been marked as outright rape but for me the distinction was important in the sense that it gave the character involved some modicum of control over what happened to them. Or at least they had a power to exert in the situation.
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[personal profile] dysmaid 2014-12-06 11:32 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks for your insight. It's probably a common way for survivors who write fiction to work out their trauma this way. I think I worded my comment weirdly at the end and made it sound like OP has to understand everything about their mental process to justify writing noncon. Like you said, it's hard to always know what's going up there and why - the important thing is whether writing about themes like this helps in terms of coping and recovering.