[ SECRET POST #2904 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2904 ⌋

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Comments

[queerwolf]

But most people's parents die before them and there are plenty of only children out there.

I'm not sure I understand what about your situation would prevent you from have a full, meaningful life even after your parents pass.

[kallanda_lee]

A lot of people parents pass when they're pretty old, though. I mean, I live near a senior's residence, and I literally see 65-year-old women with their 90-year-old mom quite regularly. I don't know how old OP is, but that's quite different if you're still in your 20's or 30's, maybe even rely on them in some ways, and then end up alone - without the buffer of siblings or whatever.

[queerwolf]

I guess. I was raised by my mom and she died when I was young (I was an adult though). I understand the sentiment of worrying what will happen when you don't have your parents anymore all too well, but this secret makes it sound like some unique situation that OP can't recover from.

If nothing else, there is such a thing as a chosen family.

[kallanda_lee]

I get that - but I also get how that's a real worry. And the sad thing I see now, that a lot of my once-chosen family has moved on the have blood families of their own, and I don't see them much anymore.

[hwc]

If nothing else, there is such a thing as a chosen family.

Well, yeah, I'm pretty sure that's what OP means when they say "non-blood family like the Avengers". Sounds like they haven't found a chosen family yet and are worried that they will be alone once they outlive their blood family.

And an anecdote regarding ages: a former classmate celebrated her 18th birthday the same year her father turned 70.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not as easy as all that. All the elders in my family are dead. It's just about down to me and my brother, and a scattering of relatives that live across the country and the world. My older nephew is 22 from my brother's first marriage, and my younger nephew is 10 months old from his second. My two kids are 6 and 11. As far as bonding goes, it's going to be hard for them to because of their scattered ages. I envy families where brothers and sisters have kids in the same age bracket, within five or six years of each other, and they all do things together, go through school events together, trips and camping. Fuck, I envy families with multiple generations. My brother and I went from being "the kids" to being the oldest generation within ten years.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm an only child and a "late baby", so my parents were a good deal older than was typical of their generation. They both died when I was in my forties.

I'm managing OK, I guess, but although I'm married I'm also childless. That was by choice; but there'll be no passing along of genes to anyone, nothing to mitigate the sense that they (and I) will be forgotten in a generation.

TBH, I try not to think too much about it. It saddens me.

[kallanda_lee]

Yeah, I also don't plan on kids, either. So I do wonder what life will be like when I'm older and my family's gone.

[(Anonymous)]

This is something I struggle with too. I'm still very young (early 20s) but for many reasons I don't plan on having kids. My parents are much older than typical and my mom isn't in particularly good health. I don't want kids but at the same time I feel like I'll be ending their memory. My biggest hope is to be successful enough that I can leave some kind of legacy for the both of us.

[(Anonymous)]

If it makes you feel better, there will probably come a point where humanity will be wiped out or the earth will be uninhabitable or even the most memorable events will be forgotten in the distant future, thereby negating every effort of carrying on a generation or legacy. Dark, I know, but it's kind of freeing.