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⌈ Secret Post #2926 ⌋

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Re: Nicest way to tell people I need space?

[(Anonymous)]

Then it sounds like you're doing everything right, and just need to figure out a way to frame your explanation in a way that's comfortable for you and all you're coping with, and still sets that clear boundary that it's something you need to take time out for. I think it's also a good thing that you recognize you're not in a position yourself to help right now -- I know how difficult that is, but it really is in both your best interests to know your limits.

It's a horrible vicious cycle when the self-loathing and self-absorbtion clash D: I know I do it all the time, but I also have the more logical side of me that can rationalize things out -- it just takes a while sometimes, or it just takes some space. But even if your friend does react badly, it doesn't mean that's actually how she feels about things. The snapping will be the depression reacting, I'm sure she'll also be able to see your position after a little bit of time.

Is there a way you could, idk, schedule/structure your interactions a bit more? X amount of time a day, or a week, something like that? So that you get space, but she also knows that you still have every intention of being there for her? Or is there someone/somewhere else you can direct her for help right now? Help her with counselling appointments etc. so that she has another focus and you have more space.

-hugs- Good luck, to both of you.

Re: Nicest way to tell people I need space?

[(Anonymous)]

She has one two other friends I know that support her, but one of them is busy because she's getting married and I'm not sure how close she is to her other friend. They're both aware of her depression. I'll talk to her and see how she feels about spending time with her other friend whenever I'm absent if she badly needs someone to unwind with.

Unfortunately she's not in a position to seek counseling due to financial issues. She's in a really tough spot, which is the reason why I'm so stressed about emotionally leaving her hanging right now, but I've become more ill (physically and mentally) as the days have gone by and getting closer to my wit's ends.

I'll figure something out, see if I can at least spare an hour every night to check up on her and see how she's doing. I'll figure /something/ out.

Thanks anon! -hugs-