[ SECRET POST #2937 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2937 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

This so much.

Some people don't realise that part of getting a beta is the horrible process of being told you've done stuff wrong. I can sympathise. I still find it tough. It's one of those things, like getting no comments on a fic, that can't be understood until you've experienced it. Even in private, it's embarrassing.

The rest of your ex-friend's behaviour is down to her own childishness and failures of character. It's how we handle difficult experiences that shows our true colours.

You were definitely better off finding out about her sooner rather than later.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I'm sure you're right. We weren't that close, but I thought we were good enough fandom friends and she didn't seem like the overly sensitive type otherwise I would never have agreed to beta for her. I'm still confused by what happened because honestly, it was NOT a major critique by any stretch. I thought she'd just go, "Oh, whoops, my bad!" and then fix it. It was like... on level with a typo. Pointing out a typo isn't a personal attack, ffs, who in their right mind holds a grudge for that sort of thing?

Now I don't beta for anyone. :(

[(Anonymous)]

I find I learn as much doing beta for other people as getting beta myself, and it's a lot easier (emotionally) giving than getting beta. It's a pity that it put you off entirely but understandable.

When people over-react bizarrely on the internet I find it leaves me so confused. I left a message on a comm last year, literally one sentence and a link I thought might be useful. I was piled on and attacked.

Luckily I was able to talk about it on a private post on another comm I'm a member of, asking everyone else to explain what I'd done wrong. They were able to tell me that the other people had just over-reacted, and then likely got their friends to join in. My mistake was in inadvertently pointing out the person had posted something wrongly, even though I'd tried to do it in a helpful way.

Like you, next time I won't bother. At the time, I nearly confuse-quit the internet. I would have, without other people to talk to.

Some people really just go crazy if anyone even suggests they're not perfect at all times, even though no one is always perfect. It can be confusing and disorientating to meet a person like that. So much.

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NAYRT

I think all this exemplifies why it's so important to choose your betas well.

Personally, I find it much easier to get crit from someone I don't know and have no emotional ties to. So if a friend beta'd my work and pointed out mistakes I'd cringe, but if someone in whom I have no real investment did the same thing it wouldn't bother me.

Some people are the complete opposite, and would rather have things pointed out by an understanding friend who knew their personality. Finding some random beta, however thoroughly they worked, would feel as though some stranger was barging in and telling them what to do.

I think too many people just jump in all "Yeah, gotta get a beta!" without considering how they react to criticism on a personal level and which method best deals with that while still giving you a nicely edited fic at the end of it all.