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fandomsecrets2015-01-29 06:52 pm
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[ SECRET POST #2948 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2948 ⌋
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Re: Weird encounters
Me and two of my friends - a man and a woman, a couple - are waiting at a bus stop, when somehow I ended up striking up conversation with a rather drunk woman from out of town. She asked me something about how I knew them, and on a lark I said, "Oh, I'm dating them." (I had, before, but wasn't anymore). She was completely and utter flabbergasted by the idea. Like, not just confused or weirded out or disapproving, but flabbergasted. Amused, I even mentioned that I had another boyfriend who wasn't present with us right then (which is true), which left her downright shocked.
We got to talking about the nature of fidelity, monogamy, and polyamory (my own personal policy to try and change people's minds for the better when I can, even if I know it probably won't stick). We had a very typical conversation that I have a lot with people who don't get that consensual polyamory =/= cheating. What was strange, though, was that she kept trying to say things like, "I know some great people who will take care of you" and generally trying to set me up like somehow I was being cheated on - even though, in theory, I was the one cheating since I was dating multiple people? We went around in circles like this for a bit, me saying I don't need anyone to take care of me and that I don't like it when people try to, and her insisting she knew great people I could go out with and who would take care of me. It was a very strange conversation, but I am used to some weird ones in the process of trying to broaden people's horizons a bit.
Eventually, I just said something like, "Besides, maybe I like to be the one taking care of someone", and she was utterly confounded by the idea. She went back to trying to insist she knew great people to take care of me who she could set me up with (at this point, we still hadn't even traded names).
The part that was weird, though, was at the end when she turned to my guy friend and asked, "How do you provide for them?" (indicating to me and his girlfriend), despite the fact she hadn't been talking to either of them at all and I just said I liked taking care of myself and was coming off of work. She didn't even ask if he did, just assumed so and asked how. Before he could even explain that he didn't, she added, "I know you're Jewish, because of the nose."
That one caught us all off-guard, because seriously, who the hell assumes someone is Jewish because of their nose?
She...seemed to have trouble comprehending that he not only wasn't white, but was actually Hispanic and came from a Christian heritage.
The bus came right after, but that was a seriously WTF moment for all of us.
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(Anonymous) 2015-01-30 03:56 am (UTC)(link)That would explain her assumption that the man is the provider, and the naivete about other relationships. Also the anti-semitism/racism.
By "taking care of" did she mean people who would "cure" or "help" you? That's just what came to my mind.
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