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I have an odd feeling about one of my friends. I don't fancy her, I can tell, but it's not the way I feel about most of my friends. I want to be around her all of the time. When I'm not, I miss her, even if I talked to her yesterday. When I'm unhappy, I go to my friends, but only she can cheer me up immediately just by responding. I keep thinking about her. I want her to be in my life forever. It's all the obsession of a crush, but without the butterflies. It doesn't seem common. Do any of you ever feel this strongly about a friend? What might be behind it?

it's called having a best friend

this.

Yep, exactly. No fancy word for it, you're just closer to her than you are with your friends.

thiiiiiiiis exactly

lol this. It's not really a complicated situation. And it's certainly not as uncommon as OP evidently thinks

But... I'm not her best friend.

It's not always mutual. She can be your best friend without you being her best friend.

Sometimes I get more attached to some friends then others, I never found it strange but just the effect when you're feeling particularly close to someone. But I also believe you can love your friends and it doesn't have to be in the slightest bit romantic.

I sometimes even found it helpful in school because it motivated me to attend class when my close friends were there.

I love so many of my friends, and I don't use the word "love" lightly. I legit love them as I love my own siblings. Unconditional love, I think is the phrase?

Yeah, I have. I don't think it's too odd.

Sure. Asexuals call this a "squeeze". It's essentially a friend crush; all the infatuation without the sexual feelings.

I get these on people from time to time.

Not all crushes are romantic.

Friend crush! It's a thing. I get the same sort of "infatuation" as with a new crush, but minus the romance. Sometimes it sparks again when I see a close friend and remember "gosh, this is why we're friends!" and I just go through the same stuff to a milder degree for a while. It's pretty normal, I think. It fades eventually, not in a bad way, but it just gets (back to) comfortable.

I feel this way about my best friend. I think sometimes I'm even happier spending time with her than with my boyfriend.

You've found your best friend. I talk to my best friend almost everyday, and I could be in the most rotten mood, but just being able to talk to him or see him can cheer me up. His boyfriend has considered moving to another state before and I legit get scared at the idea of him moving away. I know that I would keep in touch with him no matter how far away he lives, but not having him around to do things I know no one else would want to do with either us makes me so sad. There's no one else in the world who I would be able to have as much fun with going to the Asian markets with. I could go to Ikea with any of my friends or family, but my best friend is the only person I ever truly LOVE going to Ikea with. I went to a Pokemon con with him even though I'm not a Pokemon fan, but we both still had A LOT of fun.

It's great to know that you have a friend you can be with where both of you don't have any romantic hangups with each other. When we get mad at each other we don't stay angry with each other very long. We talk about it after some time has passed and joke with each other about it. XD He's the greatest and I'm sorry I turned this into an open letter about how much I love my best friend.

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