[ SECRET POST #2950 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2950 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I agree with you, but it really depends on who the funeral is for and your relationship with them. If someone died after a long life and you were close and decide to celebrate their life? Sure. But I always remember how bothered I was in my first funeral, for a classmate who died at age 14 in a car accident along with her stepfather, and people were making jokes and socializing while her mother was devastated.

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DA

That poor woman. Funerals are sad, because losing someone you care about is sad, especially if they died young or unexpectedly. Losing a child... that is devastating no matter how old the child is, but to lose your child that young and lose your husband at the same time... that poor woman. It's a very nice theory to say that all funerals should always be happy and never sad at all, but it's also very naive and a little disrespectful to those who have suffered a loss.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, my grandparents' funerals were all celebrations of their lives, but last year a close friend was killed in a car accident leaving behind three teenage kids and that was a very, very different thing.

[(Anonymous)]

i wouldn't want to hear that shit even if the person died after a long life.

i lost one of the most important people in my life a few months ago and i wanted to punch someone in the face for saying that shit to me while i was grieving her loss. not everybody is comforted by those words.

[(Anonymous)]

Which words? What are you talking about? That comment was about how the celebrating the deceased's life approach can easily cross into being a jerk at someone's funeral - which appears to be what happened to you, and for that I'm sorry.

[(Anonymous)]

the very words that are in the secret, sorry for not being clear.

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ayrt:

Ahh. Yeah, I don't find that phrase comforting either.

DA

[(Anonymous)]

I assumed that OP used that phrase because she knew her family was religious and it held meaning for them.

[(Anonymous)]

But OP said it to a member of her family, not to you, and I'll hazard a guess that OP said it because it was a sentiment that she knew her family would approve of.

[(Anonymous)]

I've been heard that before and didn't find comfort in it either, but in those instances I could tell they weren't meant to help me, but the speakers themselves. It's hard to remember when you're grieving but you're not the only one who lost someone, so I try to stay in perspective.

[(Anonymous)]

No, but some people are. How is someone supposed to know whether you're one of those people or not? Are they supposed to be psychic?

You aren't the only one who's lost someone. Everyone grieves in different ways. You don't get to be a selfish ass just because you're hurting.