[ SECRET POST #2967 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2967 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Thank you for writing this

[(Anonymous)]

"When your reality looks like the thing that's being called a fantasy, yes, it becomes difficult to differentiate between fantasy and reality."

Oh God, this, this, THIS.

Right now I'm supporting someone who needed the intervention of social workers to realize that the psychological and emotional abuse she's been suffering for thirty years was not, in fact, the normal behavior between husbands and wives. It was not, as she imagined, what really went on behind closed doors of every marriage in the world.

To her, behaviors that made people who have been trained in supporting abuse victims flinch were normal. They were her life. This is not a stupid woman, this is just someone who's been conditioned over many, many years to accept her abuse as normal.

And the problem with bullshit like 50SOG is that if her abuser watched it, he would see a Hollywood reflection of his behavior ALSO portrayed as normal, and even worse, as aspirational. It would show him that he was right, this is what women want deep down. It would show him that he was justified in his behavior, and that all his excuses are worth more than his wife's pain and fear.