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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-02-22 03:37 pm

[ SECRET POST #2972 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2972 ⌋

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Re: "omg slash is so unrealistic"

(Anonymous) 2015-02-23 01:19 pm (UTC)(link)
Also, realistically if you're doing that kinda thing, you don't want your partner constantly saying "are you okay." That can ruin a scene, because while you're being spanked and dominated, you want to be spanked and dominated. If you wanted someone to be all caring and loving during sex, well, that's the kind of sex you'd be having!

"Are you okay" is for aftercare, and for if the safe word is used. I feel like people who write kink that way feel like they have to write it for some reason but don't actually understand it at all.
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Re: "omg slash is so unrealistic"

[personal profile] tabaqui 2015-02-23 04:22 pm (UTC)(link)
Exactly. It seems to me you set up your ideas/needs/boundaries *beforehand*, and then you go for it. Obviously, if there's an issue or something, that is what the safeword or whatever is for. But the continuous questioning *during* always made me think that a) the person writing wasn't sure of what they were writing and/or b) the 'dom' in the story was very, very, very inexperienced.