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It's not about this thread. It's about a trend that I've noticed with the way you interact with people.

I genuinely wasn't trying to get at you. I'm honestly trying to help. If you're where I was, a very bad place that led to a severe mental breakdown, you probably will read this as me being superior and insulting you. I did too. Everyone who wanted to help me, I thought they were judging me. Everyone who was upset when I lashed out at them, I thought was considering me a burden.

I've been hurt too. I've been gaslighted by people I thought were friends. I've been told fucked-up things by a counsellor who was supposed to be helping me get better. I was angry and I hated everyone and everything. I don't like to see anyone else in that state because it's self-perpetuating.

I couldn't get better until I stopped using that stuff as an excuse to lash out (and hurt myself even more in the process). I couldn't get better until I learned painfully and difficultly how to cope with other people who annoyed me.

You have no reason to believe me, and I'm probably phrasing this really badly, but it's not pity. It's empathy. It's a bad and lonely path you're heading down. I know that from experience.

Okay, Anon, I totally believe that you're writing in good faith, but...

a very bad place that led to a severe mental breakdown

No. I'm not there. This might be me post-breakdown, but I'm not there.

I've been gaslighted by people I thought were friends. I've been told fucked-up things by a counsellor who was supposed to be helping me get better.

I got mistreated by an asshole. One. And then was surrounded by people who cared about me.

I think you're really reading a lot into posts on a forum. Are YOU okay?

I'm fine. Actually in a really good place right now. Apart from my unhealthy tendency to worry about internet strangers, haha.

Okay, well I'm in a pretty good place too! I had a really good day.

I'm pretty acerbic like all the time. Thank you for worrying about me but I'm really okay. Just cynical as hell. I always was but now I have a brand new thing to be cynical about. Whee.

You have seemed very cynical and negative about relationships recently, so I get where other anon was coming from.

Well I am. But I'm also okay.

I think people in fandom spaces are freakishly uncynical about relationships to a point where it's unhealthy.

Fair enough, I do agree with that. But there has to be a balance.

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