[ SECRET POST #2980 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2980 ⌋

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Notes:

Lots of multiple secrets in one comment this week, throwing off the count!

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Comments

Advice

[(Anonymous)]

I need your advice. I've recently realized that I have a serious thing for my sister's boyfriend. Not a crush or anything like that. I'm just really, really attracted to him. My sister and I have not shared a type before, but her boyfriend is pretty much exactly my type.

How do I get rid of the attraction towards him? They're happy and probably going to marry in a couple years and I don't in any way want to ruin that. I would never, ever do anything. I just can't seem to stop wanting him.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe try to find someone else to focus on?

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

It might sound unhealthy(??), but dating other people is the most effective way I've found for getting over someone.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Threesome.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

na

Ewww

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Get distracted lusting over other people.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Listen to Jesse's Girl on repeat.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Start thinking of him as your brother-in-law now. With emphasis on "brother."

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Your type can't just be limited to one person. Like everyone else said, focus on someone else

Re: Advice

[cbrachyrhynchos]

Enjoy it in silence, until you figure out all of his flaws.

Re: Advice

[cbrachyrhynchos]

When I was 20, every new crush felt like the world would end. Now that I'm 40+, I smile to myself and realize that most things pass with time.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Ignore it and put distance between you. It'll go away on its own.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Well, first of all, you can stop telling yourself that this is some unstoppable force you can't control. People tend to romanticize physical attraction so it absolves them of responsibility if/when they act upon it and it backfires. Not allowing yourself that illusion will go a long way toward controlling it.

Secondly, don't hang out with him any more than is polite. Find yourself a new hobby, go out with your friends, do something with your spare time that doesn't involve mooning over this guy.

Thirdly, realize that you've probably built up a fantasy about what he's like and you don't know the real him at all. Imagine him taking a long, messy shit with his drawers around his ankles, crying at the humanity of it all. Now imagine him leaving his dirty laundry all over the floor for you to pick up. Imagine him saying something stupid and hurtful because he blurted it out without thinking. That's what real life is like.

Re: Advice

[caerbannog]

Don't think about it, keep your polite distance with him, distract yourself when the wanting happens, don't think about him etc etc. To use a plant analogy, you usually have to water the thoughts to keep it going so don't entertain daydreams or anything and in time it will fade.