[ SECRET POST #2989 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2989 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
(Digimon Adventure/02/Tri)


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03.
['Allo 'Allo!]


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04.
[Colby Keller]


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05.
[Kokoro Kiseki - Vocaloid]


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06.
[MSPaintAdventures, Homestuck]


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07.
[David Mitchell and Robert Webb]


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08.
[Graham McTavish from Outlander]


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09.
[Game of Thrones/ A Song of Ice and Fire]


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10.
[Alfred Hitchcock's Rope]


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11.
["Darkness Falls," World of Warcraft: Warlords of Draenor]


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12.
[Avengers]


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13.
[Bob Bryar from My Chemical Romance]


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14.
[Criminal Minds]


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15.
[Vikings]


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16.
[Gunnerkrigg Court]










Notes:

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Being in a very similar-sounding situation myself, one thing I can tell you is that you have to be kind to yourself. You have to accept -- emotionally as well as rationally -- that there's nothing you can do about the situation, and if you've done and tried everything you can then you have to stop beating yourself up over it. You have to stop feeling guilty about things over which you have zero control.

In my case, the situation involves two other people's negative behaviors and refusals to change or accept that it's a problem (or care much that it hurts other people badly either), so it doesn't matter how much I try, or beg, or plead, or seek outside help, or anything, if these people don't want to do anything then I'm only causing myself pain and frustration and anxiety by not stepping back from it. If things change and they want to deal with things, I'll be there to help, but until then I've done literally every single thing possible to make things better.

I can't change anything by myself if at another two-thirds of the situation depend on someone else. I can't control other people. And I can't beat myself up over that.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

When somebody you're trying to help rejects every offer and suggestion you make, and even if you gave them a million dollars tomorrow you still couldn't fix the chemical imbalance in their head, sometimes all you can do is let them go to sink or swim on their own. You can't control other people's behavior, you can only control yours.