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fandomsecrets2015-03-13 07:04 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-03-13 07:04 pm
[ SECRET POST #2991 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2991 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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(Keeping Up Appearances)
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(Steven Universe)
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06. http://i.imgur.com/j3CivJT.jpg
[linked for porn (illustrated/pixelated) ]
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[Brian Blessed]
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08. [ SPOILERS for Grimm and Elementary ]
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09. [ SPOILERS for Project Zero/Fatal Frame 2: Crimson Butterfly ]
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10. [ SPOILERS for Transformers: More than Meets the Eye ]
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11. [ WARNING for abuse, rape ]
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12. [ WARNING for rape, abuse ]
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13. [ WARNING for suicide ]
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14. [ WARNING for noncon, slavery ]
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15. [ WARNING for abuse ]
[One Piece]
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16. [ WARNING for suicide ]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #427.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: How do you be more positive?
(Anonymous) 2015-03-14 04:03 am (UTC)(link)But in a nutshell, a lot of the time it's not stuff that happens that makes us upset (or causes us to continue to be upset long after the initial reason has passed,) it's the way we react to it in our own heads, and we can control that to a certain extent.
The 'trick' is to consciously police your own thoughts; to identify when you're either exaggerating how bad something is, or have an unrealistic expectation of how much you can control the situation or someone else's behavior; and then to argue yourself out of that unproductive way of thinking. The book calls these sorts of thoughts 'awfulizing,' and they're characterized by certain types of words: terrible, horrible, awful, should, ought, must, how dare they, I can't stand it, etc.
If you can teach yourself, with practice, to start thinking instead in terms of unpleasant, annoying, inconvenient, uncomfortable, off-putting, tiresome, unfortunate, is, are, does, do, am, will, I dislike it, etc., you may eventually find you can respond more appropriately to problems and spend less time uselessly stressing out over them.
(Disclaimer: Obviously there are some things that are truly awful and worth being upset about. None of the above is meant to suggest otherwise.)