[ SECRET POST #3011 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3011 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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(Transformers: War for Cybertron)

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[iZombie]

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[Amazingphil]

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[How to get away with murder/Scandal]

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[Russell Brand]

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[Hand of Fate]

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[Homestuck, The Nostalgia Critic, Channel Awesome]

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(An American Tail)

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[Mark Steel]

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[Once Upon a Time]

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[X-Files, The Lone Gunmen]

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[Divergent series]

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[One Piece]

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[Criminal Minds: Derek Morgan]

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[Bad Suns: Salt music video]

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[Accuracy of Death/Sweet Rain/Shinigami no seido]

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[Steven Universe]

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[One Piece]

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Being intentionally vague here.

I run a community that's changed a lot in personality. I've had some issues with it, but I don't want to dictate how people post unless they're explicitly breaking rules. However, recently someone mentioned having the same concerns I did.

Is there a discreet way to tell a member you agree without being catty? I thought about PMing them in private, but I wasn't sure if that would open a can of worms, especially if they ended up telling others, "even the mod agrees this place sucks now." Not that I really think she would, but you have to be careful. So I don't know.

As the mod, I'd be wary of contacting individuals over this.

OTOH, as the mod you can still offer guidance to the community as a whole. From your post I'm guessing the issue is with the types/topics of discussion that are going on within the comm? If so, there's nothing wrong with you using your modly authority to gently remind people that "this comm is meant to be a place of tolerance/fun/whatever, so those of you intent on using it for other purposes please realize you're making people uncomfortable/turning them off the comm so tone it down" etc.

Basically, either deal with it AS a mod, or don't say anything.

This. Don't get personal with your members on matters about the community. Unless you are going to reinforce or implement new guidelines or rules to the site as a whole, shut up.

Don't say anything. I used to mod a forum and I would get involved a lot in personal/opinion issues like this. It ended terribly.

definitely don't personally contact them over it. that's just a recipe for disaster tbh (or if you do contact them, at least don't do it under your mod username). I know it sucks when a place you love and founded turns into something you're starting to not enjoy, but in the end you can't really dictate the "personality" of a place. some things just change. I know it's hard to let go of something that you put a lot of work into, but if you really feel that the comm (I assume it's a comm?) sucks and you aren't having fun anymore, then you may want to consider stepping down permanently or temporarily and giving the reigns to someone else

Well, first of all, I think in a lot of cases like this, when a few people feel that way, it's often much more common, it's just that nobody really wants to mention it out loud. So I think there are probably ways that you can address it, although I agree that you shouldn't just PM to tell the member you agree with them.

What I would do is, first, PM the user, not to say that you agree with them, but to ask if there's any concrete suggestions that you can take. Then I would start a thread or post or whatever so that people can talk about the comm and see where people are at. Obviously that's something you're going to have to ride herd on to keep from getting out of hand, but don't punish people for disagreeing with you. Just try to keep the conversation focused on concrete actions you can take, rather than just petty grievances.

And then listen and try to put things into practice.

And also, I want to say that I think there are things you can do to moderate the comm without dictating how people post. Something like a PM saying "Hey, stop being a dick in that one post" or something can be pretty effective.

[ SECRET POST #3011 ]

"I agree this sucks, and I'm the mod"

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