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fandomsecrets2015-04-05 03:44 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-04-05 03:44 pm
[ SECRET POST #3014 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3014 ⌋
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Secrets Left to Post: 06 pages, 130 secrets from Secret Submission Post #431.
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I know it's an ongoing problem with me. I did not realize it was happening so severely lately in this comm. The fact that multiple people keep saying that I've changed just shows to me that I can change and act in a way that is more acceptable to people, that I've been successful in the past. Trying just means that--that I try and will fail sometimes. It's a problem/behavior that creeps up on you.
Imagine instead of walking (assuming you are not a wheelchair user or something) automatically, without thinking, that you had to consciously move every muscle in your leg and back to make yourself take steps. That's what filtering is to me--to other people it's something they do automatically, with me it's something I have to do very consciously.
If you had to walk consciously you might forget a muscle sometimes and hit the ground. With me I forget to "apply X tact filter now" and find myself in a conversation where I've been rude or hurtful.
None of your behavior comes across as though you have even the slightest awareness that there might be something about your style of conversation that you even need to defend.
I'm aware of my issues. I don't think it's something that should be defended. Callouts are fine. It's simply something I need to keep working on. I'm going to try harder to engage more respectfully in this comm, and you can hold me accountable if I'm lacking tact.
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(Anonymous) 2015-04-06 07:30 pm (UTC)(link)