[ SECRET POST #3048 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3048 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Ever have an identity that you've since changed or "matured" out of?

[feotakahari]

You do have a tendency to open cans of worms and throw them all around the surrounding area, then try to look innocent.

Re: Ever have an identity that you've since changed or "matured" out of?

[blitzwing]

That's a hilarious mental image. Though I'm not sure what it has to do with my maturity, or alleged lack thereof.

Re: Ever have an identity that you've since changed or "matured" out of?

[diet_poison]

I think anon's response was OTT, but on the other hand I can see why people are upset that you said you "matured" out of feminism.

Can you unpack that a little? Because I think to some people it sounds like you're saying "I matured out of caring about gender equality". I doubt that's what you really meant though.

I'm not mocking here, just curious.

Re: Ever have an identity that you've since changed or "matured" out of?

[blitzwing]

but on the other hand I can see why people are upset that you said you "matured" out of feminism.

I haven't seen anyone that's upset. Did I miss a comment?

Can you unpack that a little? Because I think to some people it sounds like you're saying "I matured out of caring about gender equality". I doubt that's what you really meant though.


It's a pretty long and complex story, but I'll try to summarize. When I was younger, I was very concerned about finding the "right" identity labels that fit me. Labels aren't necessarily bad, they make it easier to categorize people and pack a fair amount of identifying information in one word.

However, even if you technically fit the definition for that identity label, by using that label, you're going to attach much more than that definition to yourself. You're going to be sorted and categorized based on the actions of those who also carry that label.

I have grown to realize that you don't have to hold a label/identity just because you could fit under it if you wanted to. I am much more selective about the identity-labels I use now. A label/identity should be held only if it's useful to the person adopting it. At one point "feminist" was a useful label for me and helped me.

I no longer feel that it does and have moved on from it. Dropping the group membership does not prevent me from holding certain beliefs or doing activist work. While I support the equality of all humans, I don't feel that those who are massing under the label of "feminism" are, for the most part, doing good things, doing equalizing things, doing things I want to be associated with.

Re: Ever have an identity that you've since changed or "matured" out of?

[(Anonymous)]

+1