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Re: Ughhhhh
And for the record, yes I think this about other things that 18-year-olds are allowed to do. And I see both sides; it's not a hard stance I take - but I find an older person in a relationship with someone young enough to be their kid and then some to have a very predatory edge to it, to me.
Re: Ughhhhh
(Anonymous) 2015-05-20 08:18 pm (UTC)(link)Just how much more mature are you expecting them to get?
Re: Ughhhhh
I think that probably less than half of 22-year-olds who go to college are 100% independent at age 22.
First of all, they haven't all graduated at 22. I took five years plus an extra summer, and I was 19 when I started and have a birthday in July, meaning I was 24 when I wrapped up. Some students who take the traditional four years (and keep in mind that MANY students take extra summers, semesters, or years) are 23 when they graduate, too. In fact most turn 22 during their fourth year (I did about a month before mine started since I was old for my class).
Secondly, were you Insta-Independent the moment you stepped off the stage with diploma in hand? If so, congratulations. I do not think that's the norm. Of the many people I know who I went to college with I cannot think of one, offhand, who was. I probably could come up with one if I thought about it for a while, idk. Some examples among the people I do know: my two best friends went to grad school (well, one spent several years applying for med school, but she starts this August). Grad school doesn't help you pay the bills (unless you get a TA stipend which is not the case for either of them). A guy who I was good friends with in college and who was hell-bent on being as independent as possible moved back home with his folks to look for a job (he got one quickly, good for him) and save up some money. Not sure if he is still at home since we don't talk anymore. As for me, I moved back home and continued to work my minimum-wage, part-time job until I found a full-time job. My brother did the same. We are now both living on our own and supporting ourselves, but we weren't there at 22.
and are in every way considered to be adults by society.
Obviously this is true; that's my whole point - they are, but I'm not sure it's a very good idea.
And thirdly:
Just how much more mature are you expecting them to get?
You're defining maturity on behavior. What I was actually talking about was cognitive maturity, which to our current understanding is complete, on average, around age 25. The process we know as adolescence doesn't stop at 18 just because the law, in some places, says "welp, now you're an adult!".