[ SECRET POST #3065 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3065 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Witcher 3]


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03.
[Shakin Stevens]


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[The Godfather II]


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[A Redtail's Dream]


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[David Lynch & David Cronenberg]


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[Laurell K. Hamilton]


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[Big Bang Theory]


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09.
(Richard Dawkins)


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Comments

Re: Apologies and nonapologies

[(Anonymous)]

It's a very fine line, but I think there's a difference between "Sorry I offended you/sorry for causing you discomfort" and "Sorry you got offended/I'm sorry you feel that way" and variants thereof.

The former is, at least to some extent, taking responsibility for making the other party feel that way. The latter is essentially blaming them for their reaction, which obviously is the part people get pissed off about. Your whole "apologize for existing" thing is also incredibly passive aggressive and frankly, makes you seem like your acting batshit too. Or at least very defensive.

Like others have said, no apology is better than bullshit. If you still feel the need to say something, and if you're actually sincere in taking responsibility for the actual offence or discomfort you caused (regardless of any disagreement over the core issue), then making sure the phrase can't be construed as making the other person seem irrational for taking offence is your best bet.