[ SECRET POST #3067 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3067 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think this feeling is probably true in most social spaces, OP, not just fandom.

I straddle the line pretty uncomfortably on this one. I've been the person that put more effort into maintaining a friendship and winds up feeling taken for granted. I've also been the one who doesn't reply to emails and vanishes for weeks, even months at a time, either because I completely forget or because the thought of any conversation is overwhelming. I've desperately wanted someone to give a shit, and I've felt equally desperate for people to just leave me alone.

I guess I'm saying that it may not be your percieved awkwardness that makes people lose contact. Sometimes (maybe most the time) it's about what's going on with them. Like you said yourself, sometimes you're lazy about contact and sometimes you feel like you need it very much and put forth the effort. Contact and conversation fluctuates, especially within fandom where activity waxes and wanes naturally according to new releases, new merch, new info etc.

Are there any more laid-back spaces within your fandom/s where you can have the conversations without necessarily feeling as though there's a disconnect between what you and the people you're chatting with want? It might also mean you bringing your expectations down a little, but there will be people out there whose level of interaction will match yours and if you want to make fannish friends - or even just have a casual group to squee with - it'd be a shame to close yourself off from that.