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⌈ Secret Post #3071 ⌋

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So I don't want to go into detail but myself and mutual friends found out from someone else that someone we thought was a friend had been talking behind our backs. One of the things said about me in particular about my blog and selfies(I don't have very many).

My friends seemed to bounce back but I still feel incredibly self conscious and insecure when I post things, always thinking of what they might say. It's caused me to hold back things I wanted to post.

How do I get past this? How would you?

&They meaning the ex-friend rather than my other friends.

I don't think this exact thing has ever happened to me, but when people are dicks I generally write them off as assholes who aren't worth my time or my expenditure of emotion/energy. Usually I just shrug my shoulders and decide that that behaviour isn't going to win them friends... just the opposite: eventually they'll do something that will make people drop them like a hot potato.

I'm almost always right. I like to think of it as karma.

Thanks that makes me feel a little better.

It should, really. Chances are if they're doing this to you, you're not the only person they're doing it to. People don't like backstabbers. It won't be too long before you hear about something else they did that made them lose more friends or be ostracized from another group.

Just wait and see.

its gonna sound weird but be whatever they said about you on purpose. be stupid, be ugly, be an attention whore, whatever, do it for fun and own it

then if anyone else hears shit about you from that other person, you can say you did it on purpose

you're allowed to have fun

Heh sounds fun. They weren't really specific about what it was I was doing, just that I was "cringey" and "embarrassing"

I guess being myself would be enough.

do it even more

embarrass everyone

unleash the cringe

for fun.

if they don't like it they can stop looking

Rub their face in it. They don't like you posting selfies? Fuck them that's their problem. This is your blog and if you want to have fun posting selfies you bloody well can and don't let some disagreeable person stop you from it.

If you're more concerned around them checking out your blog I guess you can try to put them out of your mind and carry on as usual - or change your username so they can't go to it? Which can be difficult, people get attached to their usernames and well you shouldn't have to change stuff that doesn't harm anyone just because someone is being a dick to you :c

Yeah. I wasn't planning on doing that because I feel like the person would probably assume I left of deleted. I just want to get past this myself so I can carry on as normal again.

I just wish I could be as resilient as my friends.

Could be your friends feel similar to you but are acting like they're not bothered so it can't be used against them?

Anyway you're not them and they're not you, you'll have different areas of resilience and your feelings on the matter are a valid reaction to being burnt. Don't beat yourself up about it if it takes you a bit longer to have the sting fade.

If you've assess what the gossip said and decided it's not true, to hell with it and post whatever you want. It's your blog and your life.

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