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[herpymcderp]

The grieving process is boring, OP. It's boring and lengthy and never really resolved until perhaps decades later. Even then, it still comes up sometimes during transitional moments.

It's not like it's really remarkable or marked by any specific changes of psychological state either. One person's grief process is not really generalizable, so there's always the possibility of having it not be relatable to your readers if you want to write it realistically. Someone might not experience any grief for months to years before finally having a breakdown. Some people begin grieving before someone has died and are already more or less done with it by the time the event actually rolls around. Most of the time, nothing spectacular happens, there's no "healing", and it's just a matter of doling out additional responsibilities and going about daily life.

That would make for one hell of an uninteresting story, honestly.

[(Anonymous)]

This. It's not the fascinating, profound process it appears to be in the movies/TV/books. Sometimes it's just really boring and ordinary. This is not to say there aren't some touching moments or moments that would break your heart, but they're interspersed with a LOT of time spent trying to get your life back together. Not all pain is newsworthy, it's just pain.

[herpymcderp]

I've generally found it to be the exact opposite of profound. There's a funeral (or a wake), some people say some things about the deceased that might be nice or might not be nice (and usually aren't even true), and then it's up to the individual to sort out how to proceed from there.

Death is rarely an affirmation of life or beliefs, like media loves to portray.

The only time it gets remotely interesting is when it exacerbates pre-existing psychological conditions... but even in those circumstances it's almost more pitiful than interesting because it usually means the recovery process will be more protracted.

[(Anonymous)]

Uh.

You just wrote a comment saying that everyone's experience is different and the process is not generalizable. Now you're claiming that grief is this way and not another way.


I mean, in the space of a few minutes, really?

[herpymcderp]

Read harder. Events happen one way...

and then it's up to the individual to sort out how to proceed from there

I know you can do it, I believe in you.

[(Anonymous)]

Herpy was talking about how you can't generalize grief, and then they referenced their own specific personal experience. The clue was in the phrase "I've generally found it..."

Look, if you're going to troll herpy's comments at least have the decency to read them thoroughly before you attempt to point out inconsistencies.

[herpymcderp]

Thank you for being literate, anon.

And yes, I was referencing my own experience there.

[(Anonymous)]

doesn't it smell up your own ass

[(Anonymous)]

I find this a baffling comment since so many TV programmes or radio sitcoms are all about the grieving process. The writers find the concept obviously interesting or else they wouldn't have written them.

For instance,
After Henry,
Smelling of Roses
Cucumber recently had a good section of its run devoted to grieving
It's a regular subject of soaps

And most of these are comedies!

I agree that grieving is boring and painful to have to go through in real life, but it does make for great fiction and huge potential comedy situations and it's often been mined for that.