[ SECRET POST #3115 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3115 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Tom Selleck]


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[Kylie Bunbury]


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[My Life as a Teenage Robot]


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[The Raid 2]


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[Ore Monogatari]


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[noel fielding]


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[Matsumoto Jun, Arashi]


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[The Quiz Broadcast (That Mitchell and Webb Look)]








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Comments

OP here

[(Anonymous)]

I get how non monogamy would work and I think I'll do my reading up on that, but the problem is if I do want to write something with soulmates or people being each others One And Only, which is by far how most relationships are, I still don't quite get it. "There are other options which would suit me more" is helpful personally, but I don't understand the ones that don't seem to. Should I just give up on that?

Re: OP here

[(Anonymous)]

da, still kind of confused on what you are asking? Most relationships, even monogamous ones, are not "soulmates". I am with a girl I love a lot, and I don't want to be with anyone else, but I don't consider it a soulmate scenario. Soulmates aren't a realistic scenario and I would just look to other works of fiction to write that.

As for how people realize they want to be with one person, its just like, a process, not an instantaneous thing? I'm not sure what you are looking for.

Re: OP here

[(Anonymous)]

OP seems to be taking the fact that people say they're with their one true love, and treating it as fact

Re: OP here

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, so the idea is you meet someone, you have really, REALLY strong feelings for them, and you're compatible in a bunch of ways. Some big "compatibility" things for most people are interests, sense of humor, way of seeing the world, life goals, and sex. So if you wanna write a "one and only" type thing, then just include all of that. Have two people meet who are super attracted to each other and have really intense feelings and find out, whoa, we're also super compatible in a ton of ways, this is so great! Also, make them have mind-blowing sex, because readers and shippers like that a lot.

And keep in mind that, early on in relationships, there's all these chemicals flowing and people just feel fucking awesome, and they usually feel a very, very strong need to be with their SO. Lots of people get caught up in that and think it means they're meant to be, and it's played up a lot in fiction, because everybody wants that feeling to last forever. It's an ideal, not something real, because that part of a relationship never lasts. After a couple years, the chemicals die down and the people who stick it out are the ones who've made a decision to be together and keep building their relationship for more reasons than just "I feel really good around you." Then, they start feeling a different kind of love.

Kinda rambling. But anyway, you aren't gonna get what you're looking for from people in this thread because they're people who are in successful LTRs. They're all past the "high" and they're realistic about being with their partner. If you wanna write "soulmates," you gotta write all the stuff I'm talking about and forget how it doesn't make sense and it's not realistic. You gotta take that initial high and excitement, blow it up, and pretend it's gonna last forever.