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fandomsecrets2015-07-17 06:55 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-07-17 06:55 pm
[ SECRET POST #3117 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3117 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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02. http://i.imgur.com/j8N0B0a.gif
[linked for gif, OP's request]
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03. http://i.imgur.com/k16VpGi.gif
[same as above]
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[Dark Tower]
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[Ring of Honor Final Battle 2010, Steen vs Generico]
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[Fallen London]
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12. [SPOILERS for Orphan Black]
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13. [SPOILERS for Welcome to Night Vale]
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14. [SPOILERS for 999 and Virtue's Last Reward]
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15. [SPOILERS for Hannibal]
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16. [WARNING for incest]
[The Grifters]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #445.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
PEOPLE PLEASING
(Anonymous) 2015-07-18 12:47 am (UTC)(link)Re: PEOPLE PLEASING
So the way it started was, because of autism I often didn't always know when I said something that could be offensive or have implications that upset people. I didn't mean to and when I did accidentally offend someone I felt horrible. So I started looking to other people for approval at times, and if a bunch of people displayed disapproval than it would tell me I did something wrong. However as I got older, this started becoming a bad habit and I started measuring my self worth by what other people said.
I wanted approval from people, I needed it. If people made fun of me, I decided I had done something wrong and got all down on myself. I thought that if all these kids were saying there was something wrong with me, them maybe there was. This was not good at all for my self esteem. It left me a wreck when I got out of school,
Things happened that made me realize I couldn't keep putting my worth in other people's hands. It was hard it times but I started to work on not caring as much.
Because honestly? People-pleasing is exhausting, stressful and really not worth it , just another kind of fear holding you down. It's good to care enough about what people think of you to not hurt people. But you can't give them the power to hurt you. I relapse sometimes, but I'm getting better. I turn to my friends when I feel like I've done something bad and ask their advice. I have people I can trust to tell me the truth.