[ SECRET POST #3133 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3133 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Guild]


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03.
[Harvest Moon: (More) Friends of Mineral Town]


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04.
[Gump, from Legend]


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05.
(Agent Carter)


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06.
[Jeeves and Wooster]


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07.
[Lupin III]


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08.
[Courtney Love & Kurt Cobain]


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09.
(SPN)


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10.
[Kasumi Goto, Mass Effect]











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Comments

Re: How much does gender matter to you?

[(Anonymous)]

Cis grill girl.

Mine:

I'm not very attached to my gender, but I'm satisfied with it. I wonder which of my character flaws would have changed if I were a cis male, mainly, would the socialisation have made me less shy? But I doubt it would have. I suspect that while my personality and tastes aren't very 'feminine' for a girl, they would lean 'too feminine' for a guy and I'd get some flak for that.

So it doesn't matter a lot because 1. I take it for granted since I'm cis, 2. My parents didn't mind having a daughter, and 3. I usually only take extra effort in presenting feminine in the hope of social benefits.

For 3, I mean things like tending not to like formal blouses/dresses/skirts, but wearing them instead of trousers and dress shirts when I'm extra worried I'll look frumpy, because they fit me slightly better. If I could get tailored clothes in the future, they'd be in menswear styles.

Then there's the whole can of worms about conversation styles, but I just suck at conversations so I can't say if what I try to do is actually related to anyone's gender.

Others':

All my friends are (cis) female. Even before the circumstances that led to me being around mostly (cis) females for years, I found it easier to talk to girls. I've never had any trans people in my social circles. And male acquaintances I like don't come across as 'very masculine' to me.

An issue I have is talking to male social acquaintances one-on-one, which is why I can't count those acquaintances I like as friends. It's a cycle - more comfortable with females, didn't get much practice otherwise, never grew out of it. I don't believe it has to be a big deal, but my nerves do.

It matters less for impersonal transactions. What throws me off in those are things like age and status differences, and how intimidating or rude people are regardless of gender.