fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #393 ]

⌈ Secret Post #393 ⌋

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Okay. As a member of the comm--first off, I'm on dialup and I can't load this post. So if all of this has been said to you already, it's probably been said better than I can. Listen to those people.

But in any case, as a member of the fandom in question and someone who's followed your posts, I'll give you advice. You're looking for advice, so here it is.

1. No one cares about your autism. Really. I'm not telling you to try and hide a part of who you are, but I am telling you that in this context, it will not win you any sympathy. At best it'll make people roll their eyes, and at worst it'll make them think you're a troll. When you make a mistake, move on. Own up to it, leave it behind you, and try not to make it again. That's the only way for everyone. We've all had to do it. Don't beat yourself up, make passive-aggressive comments seeking attention for it, or blame anyone else. Just don't do it again.

2. Along those lines, deleting posts and comments that people disagree with is not the way to be taken seriously. Don't try to pretend your mistakes never happened. Deleting something for a typo is one thing. Deleting comments and posts, both of your own and of others, is another thing entirely and makes it look like you're covering your tracks. People are going to remember if something like that happens ANYWAY. Word's gonna get out. Having deleted the evidence does nothing but make you look like a troll.

3. You might want to brush up on your grammar and punctuation. Take care with how you come across. You don't need to be perfect. No one is! But you do need to be literate.

4. Fandom is give and take. Reborn fandom is very giving! I should know, because I'm essentially talentless and so I do a lot of taking myself. But I don't demand anything of the fandom. Or sure, jokingly I say GIVE ME MOAR ARCOBALENO PORNZ but. It's a joke! If you want something from fandom, you need to either wait for an opportunity or offer something of equal value. As others pointed out in a deleted post of yours, holding altered MP3s hostage for fic and art (which takes a lot of effort) is going to make you look greedy (she said, using this icon, lol).

5. Along those lines, if you post on a certain topic and you don't get much interest, well . . . sometimes it's your bad luck, and another post may be in order when you have more to offer. Other times it's because there is low interest. Posting with the same offers half a dozen times when people were not terribly interested the first time is going to irritate them. They saw the offer and passed on it the first two times, they're not going to want to scroll by it five more.

6. But you know what? All of that said? Make yourself happy. That's the most important thing. It's FANDOM. It doesn't matter much in the scheme of things. Make what you want to make, write what you want to write, ask for what you want to ask for. Do try to be polite about it, but in the end, fandom is something we enjoy. We want you to enjoy it too! Change exactly as much of your behavior as you want to change. But see #1: be prepared to reap what you sow. If you're not getting along with people, you have a choice to make between their approval and your behavior. And fandom is more fun when people like you, yes! You should be courteous to them and do your best to understand where they're coming from. But in the end, don't take things so seriously. Move on, change what you want to change, and have fun with it, please. That's the point of everything we do here on LJ.

Woooord.

Thank you. although the things you said were a bit harsh when I already feel like shit for what I've done. I've got say that I understand what you mean and I want you to know i'm rerally sorry for everything. So tell anyone you know, that I will be writing more fanfiction and i'll continue posting. I'll try my best to reread my stuff and think before mypost. but thank you for taking the time to tell me. I shall follow your advice.

But I am literate (enough), though. What made you think I wasn't? you obviously haven't seen my fiction, I use spellcheck. Maybe you just think i'm not because someone else told you that I wasn't?

You said you wanted advice. I was actually trying to be rather diplomatic there. XD This is an example of what I mean. When you come into public and tell people that you have Asperger's and you need to be told what's annoying and what's not, they're not going to beat around the bush. It's not disrespect for someone who has a disorder; it's the fact that by your own admission you don't understand social cues, so it wouldn't be very responsible of me to word this in a way that could be misinterpreted. Do you see? You reap what you sow. Telling people that you need to be told why you're annoying because you medically cannot understand it is going to result in slightly harsher, er, criticism.

No, I-I've been reading your LJ comments. Again it's not necessary to make every sentence perfect, but when they're full of typos, fragments, missing capital letters, and the like, that does reflect on you. If you're perfectly capable of typing without errors, you should take the time to do so.

...yeah it's kinda dumb to talk about my medical problems. nvm what I said. ^^

Oh the comments! I thought you were talking about my fictions. Well yeah, of course my comments aren't literate. you see, I don't feel the need for perfect typing unless you're writing a fnafiction, know what I mean? It's just my opinion, though. >> <<

And that's your choice and a valid opinion, but just be aware of the fact that people are going to form their own opinions of YOU based on that, and that a lot of them are going to make assumptions about intelligence and/or laziness. if you're okay with that, it's your choice! No one can tell you how to comment. But you also lose the right to be offended when people draw the natural conclusions. That's something everyone has to deal with when they decide how to present themselves (like, I swear and CAPSLOCK and use the word "like" a lot, and I don't pretend that some people aren't going to be annoyed by it).

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