Can you compromise on some other animal or creature that gives the "fuck you" your girlfriend wants, but doesn't hit your phobia? Everyone including you is seeing this as Option 1) WASPS ERRYWHERE ALL THE FUCKIN WASPS or Option 2) no tattoo at all, but that doesn't have to be the case.
Like how bout dragonflies? They're insects, they're pretty and badass, they sting people, but most people don't find them as intrinsically horrifying as wasps. They're also not as mindless and swarmy. Why not suggest other options.
Plus. Unless they're inked to like 5x or 10x scale, considering how tiny wasps are, I don't think they'd come out too well as tats in the first place. Chances are it'd end up a swarm of blurry black dots.
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Like how bout dragonflies? They're insects, they're pretty and badass, they sting people, but most people don't find them as intrinsically horrifying as wasps. They're also not as mindless and swarmy. Why not suggest other options.
Plus. Unless they're inked to like 5x or 10x scale, considering how tiny wasps are, I don't think they'd come out too well as tats in the first place. Chances are it'd end up a swarm of blurry black dots.