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How do you help someone with severe anxiety? Like, to the point where it's difficult for them to even leave the house.

The person in question (my partner) is on medication and has had counselling, but the mental health services in my country are fairly atrocious and it wasn't much help, plus they won't work around his new job so they essentially cut off all his support.

I try and encourage him to go out by doing things he likes to do, making nice food, ... etc. but I can see how stressful he finds it. I just don't know any way to make it better.

it's a difficult situation since you don't have a good specialist

if you can, encourage him to exercise. i don't think most people realize what extent exercise helps people: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neurobiological_effects_of_physical_exercise

you could also try some online cognitive behavior therapy. i don't have any good resources, fortunately, but i'm sure there are some out them.

you do have the right idea of getting an outlet, maybe try some other less stressful outlets.

*unfortunately

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Well, first, you should probably realize that this isn't something you can do for him. Has he asked for your help? What ideas does he have to manage his anxiety? Can his counseling give him any advice on what he can do at home to cope? Is he doing these things?

I'm sorry, because I can only imagine how difficult it is to see your boyfriend struggling, but you can't really fix anxiety for another person and your ability to help is also limited. Like the other anon said, I'd encourage him to exercise as a means of dealing with it. It doesn't sound very intuitive, but it helps.

Not too long ago I had anxiety/depression that made it difficult to leave the house at times. Someone else has already commented on the fact that it mostly has to come from him, you can't force someone into this, that might only make it worse. But maybe you can make it easier for him.

For me the worst was if it was something/somewhere unfamiliar. Oh, and I still hate 'spontaneous' plans, I need time to mentally prepare. How much time depends on how good a day/week I'm having. The best is routine: if I'm expected to be at a familiar place at the same time each day/week/whatever, after a while I stop thinking about it and just do it.

But your partner might be different. If he has time to prepare he might start overthinking things and that might make him anxious. So talk to him and figure out what the problem is.

Also, start small and slow. It might be different for your partner, but I always get anxious when people try to encourage me by listing endless amounts of suggestions and ideas for stuff I could do and try. Suggest one activity for the evening/weekend/whatever. Then leave it alone.

Finally, be prepared for it to take a lot longer than (either of) you want it to. As I said, it's easier to get out of the house now, but I'm not better. I still have problems. I have made a lot of progress, but other (normal? healthy?) people can't see it. Sometimes that creates conflict between me and people who want me to get better. They don't quite understand how bad it was, they just see that it's taking really long for me to be able to do stuff most people have no trouble with. Be patient.

Good luck to both of you :)

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