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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-08-26 07:04 pm

[ SECRET POST #3157 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3157 ⌋

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Re: Screaming thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-27 12:17 am (UTC)(link)
Well, I mean...she has pets who she can't leave alone. And she doesn't want to be an asshole. She is actually friends with all her other exes.
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Re: Screaming thread

[personal profile] dancing_clown 2015-08-27 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
What do the pets have to do with whether or not she spends time with him? And again: Not "wanting to be an asshole" and trying to stay friends with this ex are choices that she's making.

Definitely be pissed at him for being an asshole, but if you actually want to help your sister out of this, you need to help her realize that her decisions aren't helping the problem, either.

Re: Screaming thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-27 12:34 am (UTC)(link)
Not OP, but maybe OP's sister is concerned about creating resentment because she fears that ex-BF would take it out on her pets?

Re: Screaming thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-27 12:52 am (UTC)(link)
She doesn't want to leave them alone with him. And she can't just cart a dog and cat around all day.

And like...I get that some people can be cold as ice, but even if she doesn't want to be with him romantically, she doesn't want to just kick him out of her house with no car, money, or way to get halfway across the country to get back home.

Re: Screaming thread

(Anonymous) 2015-08-27 03:25 am (UTC)(link)
But this isn't just someone she doesn't want to be with romantically. This is someone she suspects is capable of taking out his resentment toward her against a couple of inoffensive animals. If that's what he's like, she needs him out of her life. It sounds like he could get himself organized and get out of there if he wanted to; he just won't--because he has a cushy berth and he doesn't want to leave your sister if he can possibly continue taking advantage of her.

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(Anonymous) 2015-08-28 01:14 am (UTC)(link)
Also, she's not responsible for the fact that he's not prepared to leave, because he's flat-out refusing to prepare. He apparently has money but is choosing to allocate it toward buying gifts for your sister to guilt her into continuing the relationship. I'm prepared to hazard a guess that he potentially has support that he could call upon, but refuses to do so because he's determined not to leave. You've already established that he has a history of manipulating her with guilt over how torn-up he'd be at losing the Love of his Life. But there's no danger of that, because the love of his life is clearly himself, with his drugs a close second.