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fandomsecrets2015-08-31 06:53 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-08-31 06:53 pm
[ SECRET POST #3162 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3162 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Final Fantasy X]
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[The Silence of the Lambs]
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[Benedict Cumberbatch, Morpheus from Sandman]
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[Final Fantasy VI]
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[Assigned Male]
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[Rihanna - Bitch Better Have My Money video]
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[Brooklyn 99]
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TW marital abuse
(Anonymous) 2015-09-02 11:30 am (UTC)(link)"Imagine telling a woman who is being abused not to stand up to her abuser or talk about her pain to others because 'what if your abuser finds out and things get worse??' That's unthinkable."
My therapist told me to talk about my pain to someone I trusted not to ever tell what i said, and so I told the only friend I had in that country (I had moved to europe where my abusive husband lived because in his im innocent and charming phase he manipulated me to believe he was afraid of being on a plane and could not himself move to Canada, so I only had one friend after he isolated me away from the rest of the people I met and made sure I was unable to have anyone to speak to he just let me talk to this one person bc she was also a drug connect for him, anyways back on topic). She had been brutally abused as I was being and asked what happened one day when we met up to trade, as i had a black eye and strangulation marks that were very visible. I remembered my therapist had said to trust someone and talk about it, I remembered she had gone through this, and she had already figured it out and asked if he was abusing me weeks before. So I talked to her. I never imagined she would go home, mention to her partner that I was in a tough spot, without being specific, n then that partner ran to my husband as they were friends and he was ina fight with her wanted to punish her by hurting me or some shit. So my husband found out and beat the everlasting fuck out of me and then forced me to call her up and tell her i am a liar and made the story up for sympathy because i have mental disease and to convince her he had not done a thing. All because she said I was in a tough spot which could mean anything.
SO if youre going to encourage someone in a domestic violence situation to tell others and stand up for themselves, make sure s/he has a support system to run to first for in case the abuser DOES find out s/hes been talking about what they did and does try to punish them because it happens. a lot. and for me it was so bad that i never had a deeper convo with anyone for the following 8 years than 'how are you, im fine, ok bye' due to learning my lesson from this incident after that. You have to acknowledge this can and does happen and they should make sure they do those things in the safest way possible or there actually can be horrible consequences.
Re: TW marital abuse
Re: TW marital abuse
My point in my comment was to say that no abused person should ever be told by others how they should handle their pain; they should be free to process their trauma in the way that makes them feel safest and helps them heal. Whether that's speaking up or not speaking up.