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01. http://i61.tinypic.com/2nino6x.jpg

My armchair opinion is that the fictional crushes speak more to who you desire to be than who you desire to bone, but the wires are getting crossed somewhere. Which doesn't necessarily mean anything about your sexuality (or gender ID, not that that was anything you mentioned).

I think there are elements of both, particularly with fictional crushes

I think, for all my fictional crushes, there are elements of their personality I would aspire towards, but, also, I want to kiss them on the mouth

+1.

I agree that it doesn't necessarily say anything about your sexuality, though I suppose it could. Wouldn't fret too much over it if I were you, OP.

Interesting. Hmm...

I kind of get you here, I think for me I found that male fictional characters are sadly still often a lot more interesting and morally complex, not that that explains all of it to me - also I find androgyny and just a mix of gender traits attractive - and I rarely find that in women onscreen. Offscreen, in queer women, hell yeah.

Maybe there's by necessity some distance there too from my irl preferences.

I can't say I'd really want to fuck them though, it feels like more of a pubescent crush. But sometimes I feel a bit confused :/

Maybe because... most men are dicks in real life? So you like these much more appealing fictional men but in real life you click better with women.

And perhaps because most fictional females are a man's fantasy, not the women you meet and interact/bond with every day as real people.

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Loki's not a massive dick?

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intrigueing - 2015-09-16 06:58 (UTC) - Expand

LUG?

ooo ooo can i play armchair psychology?

it's the same reason tween girls crush on boy band members. they get to explore their sexuality in a "safe" manner.

you get to explore and imagine a relationship to men without the reality of the situation. you don't have to deal with real men. (and frankly who would want to?)

WTF "who would want to"?

What kind of men do YOU know?

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(Anonymous) - 2015-09-16 16:10 (UTC) - Expand

Heteroficsexual. It's a thing.

It's okay not to be sure what your sexuality is, OP.

For all the 'dur dur, real life men are terrible'terrible'terrible'terrible' 1. Low level dickishness has never deterred this straight girl from a crush 2. 'You only like girls b/c men suck' is maybe kind of offensive to queer women and straight women alike 3.THIS IS A PICTURE OF LOKI, he is not a person anyone should want as an irl boyfriend.

plz be nice to str8 women :(

likeadeuce - 2015-09-16 16:29 (UTC) - Expand

Well, in my case, there just aren't as many women who are my type in mainstream media as in real life. I'm just glad it's not the other way around /shrugs

I'm similar, and there are two sides to it. One, unless you're specifically reading LGBT fiction (and since so many of those are "coming out" stories, plus not much SF, plus what I've found outside of indie publishing is ridiculously overpriced), it's a lot harder to find a non-heterosexual female character in specifically SFF, which is what I read mostly. I find I will have crushes on a female character who is explicitly stated to be queer. Two, the fictional men I have crushes on... WOULD NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES MAKE GOOD ROMANTIC PARTNERS. I mean, ISSUES galore. I learned this in my first relationship, there's a reasonable level of issues that all people will have, and it's pretty obvious (to me, at this point) when someone is actively trying to work on them, and when someone is using them as a shield (ie, "I can't do anything about it, this and this happened, and now I have no choice but to act this way" type personality). Nope. Not riding that carousel of hell again.

Maybe you're bi- to pansexual?

Media writes men a people.

And writes women as tropes.

*as

(Anonymous) - 2015-09-16 20:54 (UTC) - Expand

Depends of what you watches and reads.

My fictional crushes used to be all male characters, then at some point something switched and now all my current ones are female characters.

Hetero ? Homo ? Bi ? Pan ? An other part of the sexual spectrum ? Does it really matters ? It only means what you want.
You are a human being. It's the most important part, I think.