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It's not the sadness that bothers people…it's the "purposefully killed my child" part.

Because it make it sound as though she wronged someone when she didn't.

You can lament the loss of a potential child without casting aspersions on your ex.

The dude wasn't OWED the child. She did nothing wrong by not being wiilling to invest nine months and her body to give him something he wanted.

Yes, it's sad that he lost the potential of the child, but it's not her responsibility to provide him with one.

If a man wants to be in a romantic relationship with a woman and she turns him down, he's allowed to feel sad and unhappy. To lament the loss of what might have been.

But painting the woman negatively because she won't sacrifice her wants, desires, and body to his wants and desires is wrong.

NAYRT

Again, I don't really read a lot of those conclusions into the language.

I think if you see the fetus as a child, and not a potential child, it would probably be pretty hard to deal with that. Even if you agreed in principle that the woman had no responsibility to carry it through, I can understand not being able to get past that.

I guess - and this is going to be a strange thing to say - but I don't read it as painting the woman negatively to nearly the same extent that you do.

da

I'm kind of on the fence about it... not so much the phrase, but the way it's connected to this one particular situation. It's hard to be objective when something is just so damn personal. When someone speaks from a place of grief, even if everyone else finds it ridiculous, I think that person should be cut some slack.

I don't think he's going around suggesting every woman considering an abortion is a heartless killer who ought to pop out a kid against her will instead. It's possible he's still responding with this phrase out of guilt for what he didn't try to prevent in his own case. No, he has no right to force her to carry a child to term, but he still helped create the life form she was carrying. People get weird when it comes to loss. It's awful all around, and a little compassion is needed.

maybe you think woman need a child in her life.... no you don't. Don't make such assumption. A child need BOTH of parent. BOTH. Don't make excuses just because circumstances.

NAYRT but nothing you're responding to is actually in the post you're responding to

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