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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-09-25 06:44 pm

[ SECRET POST #3187 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3187 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

(Anonymous) 2015-09-26 01:16 am (UTC)(link)
...uh, isn't that the point of dating? Why would you waste the time and energy to date someone if you don't want sex and to have a girlfriend/boyfriend and to have someone who thinks you're special?

I mean, I assume these weren't people who you already knew well and who fell madly in love with you.
iceyred: By singlestar1990 (Default)

Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

[personal profile] iceyred 2015-09-26 01:22 am (UTC)(link)
The problem isn't that they wanted any of that. The problem is they wanted that without making an iota of effort to make themselves interesting or attractive to me. I was interchangeable. My part could have been played by any other woman in a 50 mile radius. What mattered was their comfort and their happiness.

Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

(Anonymous) 2015-09-26 01:40 am (UTC)(link)
That certainly sounds like they were crappy matches for you, and that they weren't really ready to date seriously and hadn't figured out what the real rewards of going out with and getting to know someone new really are, just that dating is a thing that they're supposed to do because girlfriends are good. Doesn't necessarily make them jerks. It sounds like it makes them kind of immature and awkward. Maybe they were also jerks, but not because of anything you describe here.

Come on, if you're seriously going to claim that YOU'VE never gone to meet a date primarily focused on YOUR own comfort and happiness and at least initially thinking of the other person as interchangeable with 50 other guys, I bet you're lying. Everyone acts and feels this way sometimes, with some dates. Dating is a moronic shitpile of a social arrangement.
iceyred: By singlestar1990 (Default)

Re: Have you ever met a NiceGuy™ in real life?

[personal profile] iceyred 2015-09-26 01:51 am (UTC)(link)
That last sentence is wise.

However, no I don't act like that on dates. I want to get to know the person, at least give them a shot, and both of us have a good time because that's how I want to be treated. And I'm not treated like that, and it pisses me off, then people act like I'm some sort of monster for not wanting to date those guys.