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⌈ Secret Post #3204 ⌋

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Re: Complain about things: a thread

[(Anonymous)]

I've been flaking on my friends recently because I'm not in a good place mentally so one of them reasonably asked what's up. I hate talking about my mental health shit so I said I was stressed and anxious out. She asked why so I kinda gave a half assed answer that I wasn't entirely sure (it's actually the combination of self-esteem issues plus multiple recent failures), but didn't wanna unload on her. She reccommended that I go to a doctor and get meds (which has basically been what I've done most of life + therapy) and after I responded I was already she asked how long. I was ticked off at this point so I unloaded on that's what I've have been doing and not ask anymore about my mental health stuff.

I'm also really reluctant to talk about my mental health with friends because in early teens years I was miserable with depression and made my closest friend at the time feel like crap plus clinginess so she let the friendship fade. I don't think I'd do anything like that now, but I still don't want to risk it.

And I feel dumb about the whole because I know she's asking because she cares, but everything she told me I already know and I feel pretty crappy about being a flake and fuck.

(Herpy don't reply to this. I'm not one of your stalkers or anything, but I rather you not give me advice on this.)

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[dreemyweird]

This is a completely valid sentiment. Just don't get ANGRY with your friend. It's neither your nor her fault; you're two different people and you have different coping strategies. Explain your situation to her - say something along the lines of "I really don't like talking about my mental health, it distresses me, although I understand and appreciate that you come from a place of caring".

Maybe find a compromise? You could give her a sort of short update on how you're doing every, say, month or so. Outside of that, she promises not to ask you about it.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[(Anonymous)]

I completely get your frustration beause this shit is fucking hard especially when you're not used to opening up. I don't think it's something you should feel guilty about because it's just one of those things that comes with that situation (oh God don't I know it). So try to be generous to yourself about it. and if you do want to have a conversation about it with your friend I think that's something you can do and in fact it's easier maybe if you initiate it - and just sort of say "sorry I was kind of in a crappy place, this is where I'm coming from". And also sort of be able to decide exactly how much you want to reveal.

Lastly infinite sympathy from me and infinite hugs if wanted. I hope things get better for you.

Re: Complain about things: a thread

[caerbannog]

I'm sorry you're going through this anon.

Although I do think if you don't want to talk about it you shouldn't have to and shouldn't be pressured after you've indicated you don't want to elaborate. Sure it's nice they're showing they care but they do also need to respect your privacy and back off a bit.

Hope you'll feel a bit better soon and please don't feel bad about your flakiness.