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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-10-13 07:51 pm

[ SECRET POST #3205 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3205 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Jurassic World]


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[Anthony Bourdain]


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[Puzzle&Dragons (mobile app game)]


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[Fear the Walking Dead, Alicia and Nick]


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[Hannah Pilkes, viner]


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[Hetalia, Xenosaga]


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[Undertale]


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[School-Live!]


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[Over the Garden Wall]









Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 042 secrets from Secret Submission Post #458.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Re: A Sincere Question About Being Attracted To Men

(Anonymous) 2015-10-14 03:31 am (UTC)(link)
I'm not attracted to "men" necessarily. Long ago, I decided not to take crushes seriously, because that's all they are. I do prefer to be with men, or just by myself. But I don't become attracted based on judgments made on a sample that failed to live up to societal expectations, or have certain flaws considered unattractive/dealbreakers by another group. I'm attracted to an individual who happens to be a man. I want to love one man wholly and fully, and I want to accept him for who he is, who he could be, and not for who I want or expect him to be, I want him, flaws and awesomeness and boring shit and all. Trouble is finding one of these guys who'll accept me back, heh. :P But I've made peace with the possibility I may end up alone. (And hell, even if I do find someone, I could end up alone for various reasons. So whatever.)

I refuse to go out with every guy who expresses interest. It's my choice. I don't owe anyone pussy just because they were generous enough to shower me with attention for five minutes. "Men" aren't stupid. Men are not annoying. I just think both sexes are getting caught up in the meat market and the expectations of society, and either dive headfirst for the prize, or just pick Mr./Ms. Good-Enough to get everyone else off their back. I think more people would benefit if they stepped back and not only just thought about what they wanted, but also why they wanted it. Approach people at the individual level, not at the "men" or "women" level. It's not that one group is shittier than the other. A lot of people are simply mismatched. And it would also help to not audition every person of your preferred sex that you see as a future boyfriend/husband. Yes, I know people can't shut off their privates. It's not an excuse to jump into a relationship with blinders on and then blame the other person for it not working out.

Well, I'm sure some of that didn't answer the question. But there you go.