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[Suicide Squad]

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[Dragonlance Legends]

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[Takehiko Inoue's "Real"]

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[Avatar the Last Airbender/Legend of Korra]

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[Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis]

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[The Twelve Kingdoms]

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[Dramatical Murder]

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[Hemlock Grove, Bill Skarsgard]

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[Marvel's Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D]

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[Psycho]

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[Outlander series, Dougal/Claire]

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More of an opinion question, but how old does a person have to be before they can say "I'm in love" and you can take them seriously? Like, I would internally roll my eyes at a 16-year-old saying it, but I'd believe a 30-year-old knows what they're talking about...but in between, it gets murky. Where do you guys draw the line?

There are different levels of love and different levels of maturity. It could well be that the 16 year old has a better handle on things than the 30 year old. So I just don't judge either way. I tend to take people on their word.

i'll believe any age is in love with someone. but just because someone's in love doesn't mean i think a relationship is going to work out or be good.

and there are people who say their in love when it's mostly lust but i don't think that's restricted to age.

It depends a bit on how long the person has known their object of affection, I guess? If a 30 year old said s/he was in love with someone they met 5 minutes ago I would take it about as seriously as if a 16 year old said it (not at all). Whereas if a 16 year old said s/he loved their SO of a year I would treat that the same as if a 30 year old had said it.

Besides, we experience love in different ways during our lives, and love felt by a 16 year old is just as valid as the one felt by someone twice their age.

I was in love at age six, and I recall being pretty fed up with adults who didn't take it seriously. Love is love.

I think love is different for everyone. It's probably more likely the teenager is hormonal, but they do feel real affection as well.

People mature at different rates... some people learn from their relationships, while others don't... I don't think it's an "age" thing, necessarily. Some people get married at 20 and are monkey butt crazy about each other for the rest of their lives. Others have multiple failed relationships but when you ask them what the reason for the failure is, it's *always* what the *other person* did, that good-for-nothing asshole, but never *themselves* oh noooo.

Also, some people are in love at the moment, but then one or both grows/changes, and either their romance ends as they realize their needs are also changing, or their romance thrives along with the change.

Uh... not sure I'm answering the question, but I guess I'm saying it's an individual thing (individual pairing thing?).

Late 20s, earliest.

So, I wasn't in love with my partner until I hit 27? The seven years we spent together before that didn't involve any love?

oh for god's sake, what a ridiculous response

yes that's definitely what it means, and isn't a response to the specific question "when do you start taking them seriously." grow up.

But that's just as silly. Someone who's 24 and has been with their partner for 4 years shouldn't be taken seriously when they say "I love my partner?" Anon won't take them seriously until they're 27, and then they'll think "okay, I guess they might actually be in love," but up until that point, they'll be internally rolling their eyes at them?

And what do you think "I don't take you seriously" means? When you don't take someone seriously, do you think they actually know what they claim to know and feel what they claim to feel?

Come on, don't be willfully obtuse. This is about believing someone right off the bat, not that it's not love up until that point.

Where does the question say "right off the bat?"

Depends on the maturity of the person and how long they've been with their partner, certainly, but I'd say in general 20s? or late teens? I mean I think I was 18 when I fell in love, but I'd been with him about two years already, and in hindsight...yeah, it was definitely love. And I waited until I was sure to say it.

I would not say a 16-year-old can't be in love but I would take it with a chunk of salt if one said so. There's a lot of maturing still going on at that age.

The tricky thing is I don't think my "I'm in love" as an adult is so different from my "I'm in love" as a teenager.

Usually not on their first relationship, 16 or 30. I think you have to get over that first one before you can actually gain an understanding of how to be in love with someone, and how to tell it apart from infatuation.

What do you think of people who only have one relationship in their lives? Like the people who marry their high school BF/GF.

I think that they're an infinitesimally small percentage of relationships, to the point of being outliers. It's obviously not impossible, but it's statistically so unlikely that I'm not going to assume it to be the case in any given circumstance.

It's cute, of course, and I always enjoy stories of people who met in high school and stayed married until their 90's, but they're literally one in several million.

I think it's more dependent on circumstances than on age (grant you, I continue to believe that I was in love with the guy I was dating at 16, so I might be biased on this point). I'm less likely to take someone seriously if they know very little about the person they claim to love, or if they feel the need to make constant public declarations of said love.

But, you know, I also kind of feel like it doesn't really matter. If someone says they're in love, well, who am I to say whether it's real or not?

It has less to do with the age and more to do with the individual person. I fell in love when I was a young teenager, and I'm in my late 20s now and I know the love I felt then was just as complex and real as the love I feel now.

On the other hand, I've known a few people over the years who seem to 'fall in love' with someone new once a month. Even in their 40s! So ime it's a lot less to do with age and more to do with emotional maturity and self-awareness. Some grown-ups don't know the difference between love, lust, infatuation, etc. and some kids do.

I think you should take anyone who says they're in love seriously. Why wouldn't you? Maybe it's fleeting, maybe it's forever, but you can be in love at any age.

I don't think love has anything to do with maturity.

Age becomes an issue when you move on to "so now what?" I don't think 16 year olds in love should be doing anything like getting married or having babies or even making serious commitments, but that doesn't mean they can't be in love.

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