[ SECRET POST #3224 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3224 ⌋

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Sorry about early, have stuff to do!

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

IA with the previous comment. You're seriously psyching yourself out here, and while it's natural to feel anxious about something like this it's better if you take a deep breath and try not to let it overwhelm you. Online dating while your anxiety and stress is dialed up to 11 will make it harder, not easier. A few tips:

* Take good pics (or have a friend help you) for your online profile. Face pic, full length pic, pics that are flattering and show you having fun or at least, smiling.

* Don't get too self-deprecating in your profile. You're anxious. It's going to be tempting to feelingsdump on the profile in order to "warn" people what you're like, but that can come off really badly. ESPECIALLY avoid the "ahhhhh nobody will ever date meeeee" vibe.

* Focus on your interests and hobbies and the things you love.

* Find that balance between honesty and being too hard on yourself. This is hard. For example, above when I said to post a flattering pic, you may have thought, "But I don't HAVE any flattering pics!" or "Pics of me won't be flattering, period!" or something along those lines. That's being too hard on yourself.

* Realize that dating is a numbers game. You're going to have interactions that just don't work out for one reason or another and this is perfectly normal.

* It sounds silly, but there's a certain amount of truth to the saying "Fake it till you make it". If you act like you are calm and confident, people will generally treat you as if you are calm and confident. If you act like a nervous wreck who's desperate for positive feedback, it makes people uneasy.

* Continue to work on you. Nobody should be "terrified of staying alone". What's missing from your life that prevents you from enjoying it? A boyfriend/girlfriend will NOT fill that void and trying to make your life complete by dating is a very bad idea. Work on being the best version of yourself you can be, a person with lots of interests and passions and friends. That is the best way to meet someone.

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks for the advice, it's appreciated