[ SECRET POST #3226 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3226 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Animal Crossing]


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03.
[Steven Universe]


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04.
[Excess Baggage]


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05.
[Sue Perkins]


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06.
[Mobile Suit Gundam: Iron-Blooded Orphans]


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07.
[Vin Diesel]


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08.
[Hemlock Grove]









Notes:

Sorry about early, have stuff to do!

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Comments

Re: Trigger warning - Rape

[(Anonymous)]

That even though she wanted to have the sex with me (so she says, I feel like a shitheel, but I can't help but doubt that) and enjoyed sex with me, there was a part of her the felt like I was raping her. Typing that out does not make it make any more sense to me.

Re: Trigger warning - Rape

[(Anonymous)]

I'd tell her to get the fuck off Tumblr and go to a therapist. If she consented while not under duress, she wasn't raped.

Re: Trigger warning - Rape

[(Anonymous)]

I think she knows that. I don't think she sees me as a rapist, because I would be in a cell right now if she did. I think she knows it's her feelings on the matter that make the situation and not (I hope) my actions. But her feelings on the matter are feelings like she has been violated by me. I don't Understand or know how to feel or, shit I just don't anything.

Re: Trigger warning - Rape

[(Anonymous)]

So weirdly, this actually makes sense to me because that's how I felt for a while. It was a combination of things. I had a lot of guilt when it came to my own sexuality. It was pretty deeply ingrained in me that sex was dirty and shameful and that the only thing men want from women is sex. I was also taking some classes at time that spent a lot of time analyzing the sexualization of women in the media, so that feeling like men just want sex was combining with a sense that the way they treat women is degrading. I started to see sex as inherently degrading.

Put it all together, and even though I enjoyed having sex and knew there was nothing wrong with having it, and that my boyfriend liked me for more than my body, I started having all sorts of hang-ups. And, yeah, I started feeling like he was raping me. He actually figured it out before I fully explained it, too, when we were trying to talk about our problems in the bedroom. He was like, "some of the stuff you're saying and doing makes it sound like you're a victim of sexual assault." And I wasn't, not really, but all those messed up thought patterns were starting to make me act like I was.

So, maybe she's like me. Maybe she's got all these really bad attitudes about sex and they're making her feel this way. It's not healthy at all. I was only able to get past it by untangling everything in therapy.

I don't know what advice to give other than that she should go to therapy, honestly. But hopefully knowing that someone else has experienced that feeling and the reasons why can help you to understand what might be going on with her.

Re: Trigger warning - Rape

[(Anonymous)]

not op

This is a good response, and definitely something to think about.

Re: Trigger warning - Rape

[(Anonymous)]

^^^^^^^^^^^^^

this is an excellent comment.

it's really not your fault, OP. obvs. there's a lot of difficult and sad stuff your partner has to work through. please don't blame yourself.

Re: Trigger warning - Rape

[grausam]

that makes a lot of sense