[ SECRET POST #3226 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3226 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Animal Crossing]


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03.
[Steven Universe]


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04.
[Excess Baggage]


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05.
[Sue Perkins]


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06.
[Mobile Suit Gundam: Iron-Blooded Orphans]


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07.
[Vin Diesel]


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08.
[Hemlock Grove]









Notes:

Sorry about early, have stuff to do!

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

See the problem here is the fact that you say that orientation is defined by 'the gender of the person you're attracted to'.

In what way do you define attraction? Because most people, and I'm assuming the anon above, interpret attraction as sexual attraction. If you open the interpretation to include simply aesthetic attraction then then surely a large majority of people would have to identify as bisexual because no matter what your preferences in a sexual partner most of us can appreciate an attractive man or woman aesthetically. If you are talking intellectual attraction then there are plenty of straight people who'd be gay because of their intellectual attraction to their close same-sex friends or gay people who'd be considered straight for their intellectual attraction to their opposite-sex friends.

Let's not be coy here when people identify themselves as a particular sexual orientation they are talking about the gender or genders they are most interested in having a sexual encounter with whether that is a one-off fuck or a committed sexual relationship.

[beverlykatz]

I don't even know what you're asking here. "Attraction" isn't exclusively sexual, and as a bisexual person I am really not down with defining my orientation as wanting "a one-off fuck or a committed sexual relationship" just because it includes the word sexual. I am attracted to multiple genders, and not just for sex. "Aesthetic" or "intellectual" attractions aren't relevant here and they're not really relevant to sexuality/sexual orientations in general.

The point I wanted to make initially is that asexual people can also be gay or bi, if we're defining asexual as lacking sexual attraction (as opposed to not being attracted to anyone).

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe it's because I am ace that I don't understand attraction properly in the sense you mean it. For me attraction is like looking at beautiful art in a museum, I may want to spend hours staring at it, I may even wish I could take it home so I could have it around whenever I wanted to look at it but that's it. The only difference between a friendship and romantic attraction to me is that I want the person I'm romantically attracted to to be my most important person and vice versa.

I'm in my 30s and until a year or so ago I identified as bi. I had sex with various men and women and afterwards I would lose all interest and would basically run every time. I told myself I was picky or a player and that I'd eventually find someone that wouldn't leave me feeling bored and repulsed during whatever we were doing. I found all these partners aesthetically attractive or intellectually stimulating or combination of the two but I couldn't care less about having sex with them, even making out was meh, but I did because I thought that's what's expected. When asexuality became something that was talked about it made sense to me. I didn't run because these people weren't enough to keep my interest it was because in my mind once we'd brought sex into a relationship it always on the table and your partner had a right to expect it. That was something I couldn't commit to. That's why it's so important to me at least to identify as asexual above all else because it let's people know if they are interested in starting a romantic relationship with me it will not be a conventional one.

I don't know what it's like where you are but around here being bisexual is still very often looked down on as playing around until you choose a side. Many gay women won't be with bi women because they feel like it's an experiment or that they'll be left behind when the bi woman decides that she wants to get married and have kids. If I still identified myself as simply bisexual and was heavily involved in the community, went to events and clubs etc and yet was never known to sleep with, date or even kiss another woman that would most likely be seen as even more suspicious and probably viewed as either a sad closet case or a straight attention seeker who likes the flirting but doesn't want to follow through with anything.

Teel Deer: Anyone can obviously identify as whatever they're comfortable with but there are reasons asexuals identify as asexual first and foremost.