[ SECRET POST #3230 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3230 ⌋

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Comments

Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

For context I work as a first responder.

Over the last couple of years I have found that my dating pool has got more and more select based on race, ethnicity, and class. There are vast swathes of people who I've built an immediate reaction with and simply won't based because of my experiences as an initial responder.

Clearly after that brief initial response for I make a balanced fair judgement, but the heart wants what it wants and that stays there dating wise.

How do I stop this? Nobody wants to be know as that person who just dates a couple select ethnicities and classes but people have already commented "oh anon, you've got another ___ boyfriend ;)"

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

You don't. It is all part of growing older, you get more picky based on accumulated experience.

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

I like that you left the races off because of how badly it would impact the way people responded to you.

However I'm 99% sure I know who you are and who you fetishise.

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

Get a life, loser.

NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

Tell us!

Re: NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

Give me your three best guesses for both points:

who it is and who they're about

and I'll consider it.

Re: NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

Just do it or don't mention it.

Mentioning that you're oh so sure that it's so and so but you don't want to say reeks of wankbait. Especially now that you want other people to guess.

Re: NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

Exactly . I hate this little gambit and the mean spirited wank it produces.

Re: NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

+1

Re: NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

I only have one, but I'm asking you because I'm not 100% sure.

(it's ill_omened)

Re: NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

Who else do we have? There's that one german named poster who was in the police who was all about korean guys but I can't remember her name. And we have a couple nurses but again can't recall their handles.

Re: NA, curious and posting anon

[(Anonymous)]

I'm pretty sure ill_omened is primarily attracted to women?

Otherwise I'd agree, that's my only reservation.

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

Nobody wants to be know as that person who just dates a couple select ethnicities and classes

Seriously? I'd say that 98 % of people I know only date and marry within their own ethnic/religious group.

You date who you want and other people have no say on that.

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

They probably exclusively date someone from outside their race. Which gets more attention for sure.

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

Anon, next time you may not want to say you're usually not anon. :/ Apparently there's now guessing games. W00t.

Re: Going Anon For This

[herpymcderp]

I love how people don't care if you only date your own race (as long as you don't explicitly state that) and never comment if you've had a string of relationships to that effect, but as soon as you date a couple of people from a different race the comments about being a "chaser" start coming in.

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

Or if you mainly date outside your ethnic group, but don't always date someone from the same "other" group.

Oh, and if you're mixed, it's even worse. If you date people from different ethnicities, you get treated as fickle and untrustworthy because, "You can't decide who you are." If you date within one ethnicity, then you're a "chaser," or "choosing one heritage over the other," or something. (And if you're only dating other mixed people, you must be traumatised...)

Re: Going Anon For This

[(Anonymous)]

You like what you like anon. Oh well.

"oh anon, you've got another ___ boyfriend ;)"

"Yes, I do. And?"

Answer seriously. If this is not a fetish, then people need to get their heads out their asses. I hate that shit.