[ SECRET POST #3238 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3238 ⌋

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waste of time

[(Anonymous)]

The problem, I think, it's that a lot of this is being framed as an individual task as opposed to a cultural one. As a culture, we should strive to educate men about the importance of emotional labor. However this article approaches the problem as if the responsibility fell on specific women who have to educate specific men (their husbands and partners, mostly).

And I get this is a worthy goal but honey, ain't nobody got time for that.

I don't enter a relationship with the idea that the other person is a project or something I have to "fix" so that they'll reach acceptable levels of... whatever you want to call it. I enter a relationship under the assumption that my partner is an adult with a reasonable level of maturity.

If my partner, regardless of gender, is not mature enough to invest a comparable -- if not equal. hey i'm flexible! -- amount of emotional energy on our relationship, then they're not going to be my partner for long.

There's plenty of fish in the sea, specially when you're into all genders, and I don't have a second to waste on babies.

Re: waste of time

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah I agree with this. There are already men out there who are willing to do emotional labor. Better to spend time on and with them.