[ SECRET POST #3238 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3238 ⌋

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Re: Thoughts?

[(Anonymous)]

I like the bit about the absence of women often being required for the lesson to be leaned. It's unfortunate, but it explains why I tend to be dawn to men who've spent a good chunk of their adult lives single/in only non-cohabitational relationships (and not living with their parents during that time) since it means they either had to learn to do stuff like remember to send their mother a birthday card or faced the consequences and therefore aren't likely to automatically expect me to do it for them.

I think an important consideration when it comes to correcting these kind of socialized behaviors is to stop worrying so much about whether we are raising girls to be well-rounded, independent women with all the "masculine" skills needed in life but to stop and ask if we are raising boys to be similarly well-rounded and independent by giving them all the necessary "feminine" skills, like recognizing the value in foreseeing others' needs, feeling attachment to your home life, and putting in the effort required to maintain relationships. I read another article that touched on some of the same issues and either the article or someone in the comments noted that a study showed that rates of depression were higher in older men who were single than in older women who were single or in older people who were in relationships, the problem being that in the absence of a partner, women still maintained friendships and connections, but men did not so much, and if they no longer worked, they had much less social interaction and were more lonely. Do you want your son to end up lonely and sad if his wife dies before him?

Re: Thoughts?

[diet_poison]

I think an important consideration when it comes to correcting these kind of socialized behaviors is to stop worrying so much about whether we are raising girls to be well-rounded, independent women with all the "masculine" skills needed in life but to stop and ask if we are raising boys to be similarly well-rounded and independent by giving them all the necessary "feminine" skills, like recognizing the value in foreseeing others' needs, feeling attachment to your home life, and putting in the effort required to maintain relationships.

YES. +1