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This past February my step-mom divorced my dad out of the blue. Dad had been having some health issues and basically she didn't want to take care of him anymore (without getting into too much of a long discussion). Step-mom and her kids took everything out that same day leaving dad with some things. Dad sank into depression, more health issues, and he died September 3rd.

Dad's brother, my uncle, had gotten everything out of dad's house after he died so the condo could be sold off. I asked my uncle recently if dad still had any Christmas ornaments or stuff. Uncle said there were only a few wreaths so I assume my step-mom has the ornaments.

My question is if I should attempt to reach out to find out if she still has any of his ornaments or not? Should I just leave it alone and say c'est la vie?

If it's important to you and there are memories attached, I don't see why not.

Honestly I doubt she'd be petty enough to hang on to some old ornaments if she happens to have them.

Depends. How good was your relationship with your step-mom prior to this? I'm assuming not great, since you haven't been in touch. Are you close with her kids or do you want to be? Because keeping on your step-mom's good side might be important for that alone, if they're minors. And lastly, how important are these Christmas ornaments? If they have sentimental value, then I could see making the effort to contact her and ask (extremely nicely) if she knows where they are or if you could have a few as a keepsake. If they're just non sentimental ornaments, then honestly, I'd forget about it.

It won't hurt to ask. You don't talk with her much anyways. Either she says no or she says yes. :)

My guess is that if she divorced a dying man so that she needn't take care of him, then cleaned everything out of their shared home on leaving, she's probably determined to hang onto everything she took. Unless it only had meaning to your dad and you--in that case, I'm guessing she's tossed it already.

I suppose it's worth a try, but I would expect the worst. It might be better to start afresh with your own new traditions.

Doesn't sound like you've got anything to lose, but like another anon said, don't set your expectations high. :/ I hope you get those ornaments, though.

That sounds like a rough situation and I'm sorry you/your family has gone through it.

Going to have to agree with this. :/

How do I shot web?

First you must really be as far even as decided to use even go want to do look more like.

I mentioned I went to the eye doctor on Tuesday and got contacts.

Wednesday, I tried them and had to take them out at noon. They were uncomfortable, blurry as hell, and gave me a headache. These were a kind designed for people with astigmatisms (they have to be put in a specific way).

I called and they gave me a new pair. These were just a regular kind without astigmatism correction. I tried them today and had to again take them out at noon. They were still really uncomfortable but less blurry. Unfortunately, it was too late to call the eye doctor.

Should I try them again tomorrow but use (after buying) some eye drops? I noticed that when I took them out at noon, they were not moist at all. I don't know how dry/wet they would be in your eyes but these had no moisture at all, so maybe my eyes are not producing enough tears?

It's worth a try. Eye drops are great. I have them just in case, and it feels so good to put them in if my eyes get dry. I keep them in my fridge; it feels even better when they're cold.

Get the eye drops that are little individual drop things, not the bottle. Better for your eyes and the contacts.

If they are blurry and you can feel the contacts they are the wrong size/shape/strength. I had to go through a few different pairs before finding the ones that work for me. I have slight astigmatism and it ended up being that the 'normal' non-astigmatism contacts worked best.

Good luck!

I'd definitely look into the advice provided in the two comments above mine, but you should also take note that adjusting to contacts takes some time.

Just keep that in mind. :)

I don't have astigmatisms, but it's very important to use eye drops when you wear contacts. Your eyes dry out so fast with contacts. My eye doctor told me to put them in hourly, and when I still wore contacts, I tried my best to remember to put them in hourly, but it's hard, especially since I have a job where I'm constantly moving so it was easy for me to forget.

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