[ SECRET POST #3244 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3244 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Walking Dead]


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03.
[Splatoon]


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04.
[Doc Martin]


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05.
[Silmarillion]


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06.
[Tucker & Dale vs. Evil]


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07.
[Deep Blue Sea]


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08.
[undertale]


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09.
(Fantasy author Scott Lynch)


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10.
(Taylor Swift, "Shake it Off")


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11.
[Dany Boon]


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12.
[Masturbation Master Kurosawa]








Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 078 secrets from Secret Submission Post #464.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes people will give you shit for being attracted to someone who isn't considered conventionally attractive. I'm considered considerably more conventionally attractive than my SO, and it's always broken heart a little when I hear things about him. I have no issues telling people off in contextually-appropriate ways.

At the same time, because people can be so awful and inconsiderate, I can understand someone not wanting to admit to such a crush, especially if it's just a crush. It's natural to want to avoid potential mockery, even if the mocking reflects more on the people doing it than the target.

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry I am out of middle school so I don't give a damn if other people don't approve of my choice in man crushes. Anyone who is grown up and afraid of their friends judging them needs new friends.

[(Anonymous)]

So everyone who isn't as strong as you can fuck off? Great attitude, you're clearly the superior person in this fight.

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

Did you miss the part where the anon said their SO is not considered conventionally attractive? I think that's pretty much the definition of not caring about what other people think of your man crushes.

Nor did they say the judgey people they've come across our their friends.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt - Previous anon is angry and off on a self righteous bender. Any attempts at being reasonable will be shouted down so you know that you're not as awesome of an individual as previous anon is.

[(Anonymous)]

Listen: as you go through the world, you're going to see that not everyone is brave as you are. Lots of people might know the Right Thing to Do, but they might not have the backbone to do them, because very, very often, doing the Right Thing isn't easy. Not even for people who want to be brave.


Now you have a choice... you can give them a helping hand and help them be braver, or you can stomp on their fingers and sneer at them for not being as good as you are. Alternately, you can ignore them and walk away. Personally I think the Door #1 is the best option. But if you can't or don't want to choose that door, just walk away. At least that way you're not actively discouraging someone from trying.

[(Anonymous)]

I think you put that very well. :)

[(Anonymous)]

There are people being raped by IS and children getting chemo and someone admitting they crush on a regular-looking dude is "brave" now?

[(Anonymous)]

Do you honestly think there's only one kind of bravery? Different degrees of courage? It may seem like a very trivial thing to you, and that's fine. Maybe there are things you do that requires you to steel yourself that other people would find laughable, though I hope they'd have the compassion not to do that. Maybe you can find some compassion to acknowledge that for some people, it's difficult to go against what society deems the norm and for those people, it might be an act of bravery.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

In the same boat as this anon. While the secret could gave been worded better, I understood what they said in terms of it being hard to talk about who you find hot in social groups if it's out of the norm. Source: many, many years of navigating this minefield, and being looked at weirdly if I contribute my crushes to a conversation about the attractiveness of the Brad Pitts of the world.

It didn't stop me actively pursuing my current SO when I found him. But it took me a while to be confident enough in my own preferences to do it, because of above social pressure to only talk about being attracted to certain types.