[ SECRET POST #3280 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3280 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Am I being dumb for being bothered by this?

[herpymcderp]

Her behaviour is rude as hell, but being bothered by it is a bit much.

She's a bit of a shitty person, and her own dating record probably shows it if she thinks that being in long term relationships or only dating a scant few people you really connect with is "weird".

But yeah, you missed the opportunity to tell her she's offensive as fuck so it's basically out of your hands now. Being bothered by it after the fact is useless.

Re: Am I being dumb for being bothered by this?

[(Anonymous)]

You're right. There's no point in being bothered by it now since there's nothing I can do about it at this point.

It's funny, I was sort of mad at myself afterwards for not saying something, but that's pretty much what I always do. When someone says something rude, I never want to say anything because I'M afraid of coming across rude for calling them on it, but then later I'm pissed at myself for not stating my opinion or standing up for myself (in a situation where someone is directly saying something against me).

I guess the next time it's brought up (and it probably will be, because this thread has made me think of similar things she's said in the past) I guess I need to say something.

Re: Am I being dumb for being bothered by this?

[herpymcderp]

Yep. If it's that offensive to you, say something. It's the only way you come out of a situation feeling good about it, and it's the only way people learn that their behaviour isn't 100% acceptable.

Alternatively, if it's possible you can just avoid that person. That's generally another way to let people know they did something wrong without having to actually speak up.

Re: Am I being dumb for being bothered by this?

[(Anonymous)]

Avoiding her is kind of a tricky thing. Luckily I'm not around her that much but every time I am she comments how we need to make plans to hang out. She's pretty flaky so nothing's ever come of it, but I'm not sure how I'm going to react if it ever does. We just have zero in common and she gets on my nerves after being around her for a few hours at a party but I don't really know how to say "I don't want to hang out with you" without being mean. Oh, well.