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⌈ Secret Post #3292 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

I want to date, but I don't think I'm cut out of for it or a situation where it'd be smart to do so. Because right now I'm:

-the young adult in the basement stereotype (but working on getting out it of it)
-not even sure what the fuck my sexuality is (ie too gay to be bi and too bi to be gay and my sex drive is kill)
-or maybe i'm not really attracted to girls and avoid guys because they make more uncomfortable and girls feel more safe (probably bullshit, but it's how I feel)
-kissless virgin
-pretty bad social anxiety
-mild aspergers lol
-parents and extended family tolerate gays so I wouldn't be kicked out or anything, but still don't want to come out and deal with it ever, especially if I'm not sure
-honestly, i wouldn't date me

I feel like I'm missing out and shit, but it feels shitty to even consider dating when I have no faith in myself.

Re: Complain about things

[iceyred]

It's kind of sad that you wouldn't date you. You should become the person you want to date.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

This is actually a pretty good advice

Re: Complain about things

[iceyred]

It's worked out pretty well for me life-wise. I'd date me in a heart-beat.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

Da

Kinda unless youre a five nothing girl who wants to date a huge muscleman

It would be funny advice but maybe not good exactly

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

And now im imagining a formerly tiny woman walking into the gym all swole all of a sudden then the gymbro of her dreams is mirin madly

Re: Complain about things

[herpymcderp]

Actually, this is still good advice. SUPERFIT guys generally really do want to be with muscular girls (and are some of the only ones who won't get weirdly self-conscious about it if they have a girlfriend that works out).

I know this from my learnings.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe good for getting that guy, if tgetting that guy is all the girl wants to do. Maybe she doesn't want to be SUPERFIT? Only pointing out the absurdity of a blanket "be what you want to date"

good advice in general, but yknow

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

I mean that's the end goal, but right now everything feels really overwhelming and I'll probably be old and busted when I get there.

Re: Complain about things

[iceyred]

Nah, you won't be old. Come up with a list of attributes you would want in a partner, then pick one you can do. Do that every week and see where you are.

Examples:

Knows how to cook: half the people here can give you delicious recipes. Pick a few and try 'em.

Has hobbies: hiking is a good one to start with. Cheap and gets you exercise!

Has good fashion sense: consignment stores are your friend. Good quality stuff for cheap!

Has good money management: www.mrmoneymustache.com will help you get started there.

You will be awesome sooner than you think.

Re: Complain about things

[a_potato]

"Old" is a relative term.

People at senior centers still date. People in nursing homes still date. The human condition is such that we never stop wanting companionship, and we will seek it at any and every age.

Until you die, you have time.

You can do this.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

My (unpopular) advice: you should accept that you'll never date anyone and that you'll die alone and try to make the best of your life as it is.

I'm pretty much you minus the aspergers and the sexuality confusion. Some years ago I used to think that some day things would change and I would be able to find someone who loves me. Truth is things don't change, I'm a 26 years old kisless handholdless virgin. The older I get the less confidence in myself I have. Shit sucks.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

Are you actively looking for someone who loves you, or holding still waiting for someone to show up and volunteer?

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

+1

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, hon. If I had a dollar for every twentysomething who was convinced-- CONVINCED I TELL YOU-- that their life was over and it was *ominous trumpets* too late for them, I could retire early. Except I'd laughing too hard. Think about the last time you saw a 13 year old stamp their feet and declare they were a teenager and soooo grown up, and you'll know what I mean.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

26 is young as fuck. Your life isn't over, it's hardly even started. Most people don't get it together and figure out who and what they want to be until they're on their 30s.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

I don't really have any advice or anything. Just wanna say I'm in a similar boat to you. So... you're not alone, I guess? There's others out there.

I second the advice given below, about becoming the person you want to date. Recently, I've decided to just get on with my life. I've put all that energy I would usually waste on beating myself up, and started revamping my wardrobe, planning for my first job and moving out of home, budgeting, etc. Eating better and staying healthy. Watching new TV shows and books. Working on my hobbies.

Do that, and hey, it might mean you meet someone awesome who has similar goals to you. Even if you don't, you get the consolation prize: you're now awesome and have new hobbies!

Re: Complain about things

[herpymcderp]

OP, if half the internet is constantly complaining about how they can't find someone to date them and telling themselves they're "undateable", you have to wonder how much of that is real and how much of that is self-fulfilling prophecy.

There's someone out there just like you who would probably love to date you. If you take the first step you might just be pleasantly surprised.

Re: Complain about things

[(Anonymous)]

My advice would be to not start with "dating," per se, but to just make friends. Hang out with people. Girls and guys both. You'll get a much better idea of what you like or are attracted to, and in the process, you'll be making yourself a more date-able target. People like people who are friendly.