[ SECRET POST #3301 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #3301 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.


__________________________________________________



10.


__________________________________________________



11.


__________________________________________________



12.
















Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 064 secrets from Secret Submission Post #472.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

At what point is it fair to wash your hands of a depressed person if theyre the ones pretending like you dont exist and they dont know you?

Re: tw depression

[blitzwing]

You don't owe anyone your time or affection. Whenever you feel like you no longer want to have a relationship with them, you're entitled to end it.

Re: tw depression

[solticisekf]

Depends.

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

On? They dont want to talk to or acknowledge anyone includng me and any attempt to speak to them gets overtly and rudely ignored as though you dont exist.

Re: tw depression

[solticisekf]

If it's been going on long enough to get on your nerves, wash away. However things could change in the future. Let them come to you first thought, so you don't get rudely rebuffed. Personally I wouldn't feel too hurt because they ignore ~everyone~, not just you, so it's not personal.

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe you could tell them to look up mortality statistics all around the world and get over it, eh?

Re: tw depression

[solticisekf]

Don't mess up OP's thread, they're asking for advice here.

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

What? Looking at mortality statistics would probably make someone even more depressed and disconnected from a cruel world.

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

It's a reference to some rather insensitive advice solticisekf gave to another depressed person yesterday:

http://fandomsecrets.dreamwidth.org/1350259.html?thread=885397875#cmt885397875

Not a very nice thing for nonny to bring up here but I admit I LOLed.

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, that was kind of callous. And no apology to the OP, I see. I thought solticisekf was one of the good ones, wtf...

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

Any point.

...though I guess it might depend on your relationship. If they're someone you have close ties with regardless, e.g. family or part of a close-knit friend circle, it's in your own interest not to burn bridges for the sake of greater peace. Or if you've been close forever and this is a new thing, I'd be more inclined to give them time than if this is something that's made up a big part of the time you've known them.

You don't have to be cruel about it though? Drop a line through whatever way you message them saying "Hey I know you're depressed right now but I can't deal with being ignored. Get back to me when you feel up to it. Hope you feel better soon." (Or whatever variant thereof works for you.)

When/if they get back you can decide where to go from there.

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think fairness enters into it, really. Even if it's someone you care about, you're not obligated to prop up a relationship when they're not interested or engaged in doing the same. The most you can do is a "Please get help, I'll be here if you need to talk" message. That is, if you want remain connected in some way. If you don't, then it's "Best wishes" and good bye.

This is assuming you're not living with this person and their condition doesn't affect you directly, in real life. If it does, then I'm afraid you're going to have to be more forceful about insisting they get treatment, or in removing yourself from this situation ASAP.

Re: tw depression

[caerbannog]

The point where you feel it would be better for your health and sanity, which can be any point.

Re: tw depression

[sparrow_lately]

+100

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

Not your job to put up with them. I say this as a person with depression

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

Well, there are exceptions. If it's your spouse or your kid, then it IS your 'job' - or rather, responsibility - to put up with them. (Though even then, there comes a point where you have to draw the line in favour of your own well-being.)

Pretty much anyone else, though? Yeah, fuck 'em. If they're making no effort whatsoever to treat you decently, they don't deserve your time.

"depressed" =/= "total asshole"

Re: tw depression

[(Anonymous)]

Relationships are a two-way street, even for people with depression. If they can't be assed to acknowledge you, especially if they're being outright rude or hurtful, then fuck 'em. Mental illness isn't a free pass to ass-town.